“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I'm 22, have no friends, and can't remember when I made eye contact w/ a girl
- Thread starter entgs2
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
entgs2 said:I try to hide the negative thinking whenever possible around other people, but you're probably right: it does show in some ways.
When you say I should focus on developing myself, you mean things like working out, getting hobbies, making friends etc?
I think I have at least decent body language, at least when walking or sitting by myself (when talking to someone it's a different story entirely). Facial expressions are perhaps the killer for me.
I've even gotten random homeless guys come up to me and tell me I look "angry" or "p1ssed", or that "you look like you're hoping wherever it is you're going is on fire". Not entirely sure why I get this: I think from years of being depressed, it just shows in my face
Practice smiling. I don't mean walking around with a big grin just a slight relaxed smile. It takes less effort of smaile then it does to frown. As I said its just a matter of making it a habit. You've a bad habit now so you need to concentrate on relaxing the facial muscles and smiling more. People are simple creatures. They like those who like them. So if you're genuinely nice to people 99.9% of the time they'll like you more. Theres a good ebook called 'the body language project'. After reading it I can now tell alot about somebody based on their body language alone.
When I say you should focus on developing yourself I was talking about changing the way you think. Stick around on this site and the more you learn you'll find that your beliefs will change and your behaviour with it.
By the way its important to have goals. Know what you want and write it down regulary to remind yourself. That focuses the mind on your goals and when the mind is focused on something it'll more likely achieve the goal.
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Unless you have been lurking here for months or you have trawled through the archives, a newly registered poster wouldn't know about caped crusader.entgs2 said:
I used to have self esteem issues and had a low self value. What did I do? Changed my hairstyle, clothes, went back to basics, had a relationship with a woman, lost my v-plates, had my first one night stand (hated it) and built up and up and even I am no where near being a DJ, but stick with this site, the DJ's are here to help and they will help you.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Energizer
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You know a lot about the man they call Caped Crusader.horaholic said:
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A strong masculine physique will make the game much easier, I know from experience.
I'm on the shorter side too and Asian men aren't exactly chick magnets. Yet, I've gone out with 54 women since March 08.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Nygard
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Thanks, Captain Obvious. Why dont you tell him, and me as well, how to work on "inner game". Perhaps shock treatment?
You guys are great! This guy comes here, desperate, no idea on what to do, and most of you give him a very abstract answer. Like..
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You need to work on your inner game ASAP
Thanks, Captain Obvious. Why dont you tell him, and me as well, how to work on "inner game". Perhaps shock treatment?
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LOL. That's the funniest thing I've heard all week.
I did tell him. Blueprint by RSD. Goes over inner game for 19 hours straight. Breaks it all down. And that book I suggested is all about inner game specifically for nice guys. If you can practice internalizing all those things you can imporve your inner game.Nygard said:
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Inner Game part 1
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aZXsCRFs9Ts
Inner Game part 2
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=966GRvipnC4
Inner Game part 3
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JooHAoQ2TfI
Inner Game part 4
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WJMw3E3zQbU
Inner Game part 5
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MBH7H4Ab464
What to wear
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y1ehft1fvVs
How to find the right gym for you
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rKg-yrbRZOU
Confident body language
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=spkFp4EcFbc
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Nygard said:
Think of yourself as being a DJ and you'll start acting like a DJ. Think of yourself as being a repellent to women and thats what you'll become. You'll act in ways that make you seem creepy to women even though you are not creepy.
Also:
-Making out goals and writing them down.
-Reading more on this site to get a deeper understanding of how things work. When you have a deeper understand of something you're more conscious of it and soyou're less likely to go against that.
-Change body language that helps you fake it till you make it ie if you walk with confidence it'll help you become confident.
The problem that I have with fake it till you make it is that I can fake it fine, when alone or in a situation that I feel comfortable in. When meeting strangers (I haven't met a hot female stranger in a while), all that just instantly goes away. Guess theres no other way but to keep trying...slaog said:
And yes, I really need to start writing goals down.