"I'll call you and let you know"

[decentguy]

This is an extension of a thread I started and I thought I would make the title clearer to make it easy for people to find advice on what to do in this type of situation.


Assume you've asked a girl out to a specific date (not necessarily on the phone) and she says, enthusiastically, "give me your number, I'll call you and let you know".

What does this say about her?

 

[thewarrior]

not that interested.

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

"I'll call you and let you know" is a bad sign. Not to mention that she wanted your number rather than you having hers.

What's good is that you have nothing left to do here, but don't expect much to come out of it. Just pursue other things as normal.

 

[Kevin Feng]

You need to realize that it's a girls way of politely saying no, that's all there is to it, I mean there is a very slight chance that she'll actually call you but it's extremely slim.

The more you start going out, the more you'll start seeing patterns amongst your interactions, when a girl:

1. has a boyfriend
2. has to go to the bathroom
3. has to go find her friends
4. will take your number and call you

it's her way of just politely saying no, don't take it personally, she just doesn't want to come across as rude, consider it a favor, I mean, she could just be a ***** and tell you to piss off.

Remember, rejection is part of the game.

-Kevin

 

[Willis]

dont read to mch into that sh!t...think about it...what girl calls a guy back to let him know when they can go out..smh...doesnt happe,, if she was really interested she would have said "im free blah blah.." then boom...mission complete.

 

[Mavrick]

Women never ever say no. They just give excuses or throw you a curve ball.

 

[Lust]

This is an extension of a thread I started and I thought I would make the title clearer to make it easy for people to find advice on what to do in this type of situation.


Assume you've asked a girl out to a specific date (not necessarily on the phone) and she says, enthusiastically, "give me your number, I'll call you and let you know".

What does this say about her?

Really depends. A lot of people say you should ask for the number, but i'm lazy as, and personally would rather give the girl my number and let her do the chasing. If she doesn't call, meh.

 

[Allurre]

haha.

That's the NICE way to say "No thanks"

believe me.

The best way to tackle this is to tell her

"Now, I know that means you don't want to give me your number. It's okay.
I'll tell you what, give me your e-mail and you won't be dissapointed".

 

[decentguy]

How immature of her! I mean for God's sake, she's a grown woman, she has a brain and can communicate. The inability to simply say "I really appreciate it, but honestly, I'm not looking for a date right now" shows a lack of integrity.
On to the next!

 

[Hughman]

How immature of her! I mean for God's sake, she's a grown woman, she has a brain and can communicate. The inability to simply say "I really appreciate it, but honestly, I'm not looking for a date right now" shows a lack of integrity.
On to the next!

Women never 'mature' in that sense. They think they are doing us a favour by not 'hurting' our feelings by not being direct. It's either that or they really get a kick out of stringing guys along. I like to be optimistic on that one, hehe. Either way, you know what it means - move on.

 

[DonGorgon]

Low interest.... 99% of the time you get no call..

 

[DonJuan11]

Assume you've asked a girl out to a specific date (not necessarily on the phone) and she says, enthusiastically, "give me your number, I'll call you and let you know".

What does this say about her?

I don't understand what you are talking about. What does it say about her? It says she does want to have sex with you right then and there and will call you and let you know.

decentguy: Would you like to go out for coffee sometime?
girl: give me your number, I'll call you and let you know
decentguy: No, no you give me your number. Don't play games with me. If you don't like me and won't date me or sleep with me, you better tell me straight up like is, I don't have time to play these mind games.

decentguy: Would you like to go out for coffee tomorrow night? I know this great place around the corner.
girl: tomorrow night is no good for me, but give me your number, I'll call you and let you know what works.
decentguy: splendid, here is my number. look forward to hear from you soon.


It all depends how smart you are in handling it.

 

[nismo-4]

"I'll call you and let you know..."

That I'm not interested in you.

Women don't finish their sentences. These days it's the guys who go after girls as opposed to the other way around.

Back to the field for you! You should also use DonJuan11's advice.

I gotta add this sh*t to the w0manese list!

 

[Igetit!]

This is an extension of a thread I started and I thought I would make the title clearer to make it easy for people to find advice on what to do in this type of situation.


Assume you've asked a girl out to a specific date (not necessarily on the phone) and she says, enthusiastically, "give me your number, I'll call you and let you know".

Yeah,like everyone has already said,this is pretty much a rejection. One thing I have to give women credit for:They come up with the most slick and cunning ways to reject a guy. They're so good at rejecting men,that unless you have some experience with women,they can reject you and you not even know it.

This way they can turn you down without hurting your feelings and making themselves look/feel bad in the process.

What does this say about her?

Doesn't say anything really,just that she wasn't interested. However,if she gave you this line,that means that more than likely,everything you did and said leading up to that point DID NOT generate any attraction in her.

I'd stop worrying about what she said,and focus more on WHY she said it in the first place.

 

[DonGorgon]

... is code for im not interested..

 

[doback]

Women never 'mature' in that sense. They think they are doing us a favour by not 'hurting' our feelings by not being direct. It's either that or they really get a kick out of stringing guys along. I like to be optimistic on that one, hehe. Either way, you know what it means - move on.

personally I would rather them be more upfront, who cares if they hurt your feelings, if they do it'll be easier to move on, plus none of this bull**** head games and curve balls

 

[Duffdog]

wow. This has become very complicated-- women want you to take their hints about them saying "NO" and don't want to feel guilty without them ever having to say it. They don't care about you at all, they just don't want to have the thought of them being mean to a guy on their conscience. That is why they respond cryptically. If you ask for her number and she says anything other than "ok" or "give me your phone", you just got rejected.

There is no point in trapping her and making her say "no" out loud-- you have already been stomped on. Do you want her to continue to stomp on you more? Of course not-- the best thing to say is "cool, whatever--see you later" and then leave with your dignity in tact.

If you just leave, you demonstrate that she didn't really matter anyways to you. This is a much more powerful and positive message than trying to make a girl justify why she doesn't like you.

 

[r0cky]

It says that shes a hoe

 

[Hughman]

personally I would rather them be more upfront, who cares if they hurt your feelings, if they do it'll be easier to move on, plus none of this bull**** head games and curve balls

Damn right, but that would mean their sense of logic > their emotions.

The only time that applies is when their anti-slut defense is up!

Ah women, logical when you don't want them to be, and illogical the rest of the time.

 

[romangod]

I'd call her and ask her what she means.


Cheers!