She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I agree with this actually. This forum goes through different phases and is in a nearly constant state of change.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I get my fair share of PMs from members threatening to leave. Usually it's after being sent a warning for behavior. I never like to see any member leave in that way, but we are men here. Hate to see you go, but don't let the door hit ya where the good lord split ya. If you want a room full of people trying to talk you out of putting a bullet in your head, this isn't the place. Try your local suicide hotline and find such a group.