"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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IL Dropped, I Backed Off Now What

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Have you banged her? Dated her? Gotten her number? Called her?

Not trying to belittle you, but it seems like she's just some chick who you like, but has contributed nothing to your life. So, I guess i'm just trying to say...who cares?

And I'm not saying that in a mean way. I'm just saying, okay cool...she flirted with you. Is that it? Is that what's causing your mind to swirl with all these questions about her? Girls flirt with me all the time. Sometimes that's just how they are. It's not always a guaranteed bang.

And christ, she's a trainer. She's trying to sell herself. In every gym I've been to, I've seen the girl trainers float some flirty vibes at guys. And I've seen guy trainers do the same to girls. You sound like those guys who are blown away when a waitress flirts with them, but doesn't go on a date. Yeah, when you're in a position of selling yourself to the public, you better be super friendly.

...and even if I'm wrong about it, and you think she's only flirting with you...still...who cares. You've lost nothing because she never gave you anything in the first place. Why has she gone cold? Who knows. Either you did something, or she's a typical crazy female...or maybe she's just an as*hole. Either way....the fact that you care so much about this worthless, useless woman tells me that you're not talking to enough girls in your life.
 

tincanman99

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Iceberg said:
Have you banged her? Dated her? Gotten her number? Called her?

Not trying to belittle you, but it seems like she's just some chick who you like, but has contributed nothing to your life. So, I guess i'm just trying to say...who cares?

And I'm not saying that in a mean way. I'm just saying, okay cool...she flirted with you. Is that it? Is that what's causing your mind to swirl with all these questions about her? Girls flirt with me all the time. Sometimes that's just how they are. It's not always a guaranteed bang.

And christ, she's a trainer. She's trying to sell herself. In every gym I've been to, I've seen the girl trainers float some flirty vibes at guys. And I've seen guy trainers do the same to girls. You sound like those guys who are blown away when a waitress flirts with them, but doesn't go on a date. Yeah, when you're in a position of selling yourself to the public, you better be super friendly.

...and even if I'm wrong about it, and you think she's only flirting with you...still...who cares. You've lost nothing because she never gave you anything in the first place. Why has she gone cold? Who knows. Either you did something, or she's a typical crazy female...or maybe she's just an as*hole. Either way....the fact that you care so much about this worthless, useless woman tells me that you're not talking to enough girls in your life.
Belittling is good motivation for me to keep ignoring her.

You are right, I am not talking to enough women.
 
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