Ignoring the girlfriend when space is needed

[nan3109]

My girlfriend wants space because she said that I need to get my life together and find new NON druggie friends and also because Im kinda depressed. But I really dont know if I am. I just need to meet new people who arent burnt out druggie losers.

anyways, when a girl says this then starts being *****y, what's the best way to handle it? Should I just ignore her completely if she wants space? LOL, she said around 2 weeks, but sometimes she says she LOVES ME SOO MUCH, then an hour later she hates me and never wants to see me again....

i really love her, she didnt used to be like this..... ignore or what should i do / say to her?

 

[Best friends? NAY]

I suggest you get a new g/f. Or if YOU don't like the friends you got get NEW ones, don't dump your friends cause your g/f is being a *****.

 

[dcfball]

next her... she is complaining about YOUR friends.... never let a chick come between you and friends...

then again you may in a bit of denial about the whole thing(i dont think im depressed....) so MAYBE you need to reevaluate your friends and life right now... if you are interested in making new friends and dont go to school, community college would not be a bad place to start at 19. alot of people there are really social and eager to make new fri9ends.

 

[iqqi]

she sounds like a b!tch, especially if she is pulling out on you when you need her support the most. there could be more to the story but she sounds like a fairweather friend.

 

[DJmonster]

loves you so much then an hour later hates your guts huh. Sounds like you're taking too much sh*t from this girl. You've got to let her know that you'll walk away from the relationship if she doesn't treat you right. Now its to the point where she wants space, so you do need to withdraw and not see her again until she really misses you. Don't ignore her, but when she calls, be too busy to talk, and too busy to see her.

While you're withdrawn from her, you should step back and think about whether or not its worth getting back together with her. Oh, and of course, work on your self improvement, goals, etc. That way you will actually BE busy getting yourself together when she starts to miss you. (she does sound like she might be a biatch, so you might want to look for a new girl bro)

 

[nan3109]

I guess she heard that I cheated on her from one of my "friends" if you can call him or her that.

 

[nan3109]

ugh.... i find myself now sitting and waiting for her to instant message me on AIM or to call me ......... i care wayyyy to much dudes!

im sorry, but i need to accept this...

 

[MetalFortress]

I'd ditch the friends AND the girlfriend.

 

[MetalFortress]

Also, Nan, you ask more questions in such a short period of time than anybody in recent memory. The time has come to stop asking questions, learn to trust your gut and do what you see fit, and live and learn.

 

[nan3109]

Originally posted by MetalFortress
Also, Nan, you ask more questions in such a short period of time than anybody in recent memory. The time has come to stop asking questions, learn to trust your gut and do what you see fit, and live and learn.

yeah, but i think it keeps the board active when people discuss stuff like this. I'm sure there's quite a few guys who read this and ALL my of my forums and learned a thing or two about becoming a don juan.

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by nan3109
I guess she heard that I cheated on her from one of my "friends" if you can call him or her that.

Well uhh..damn. LOL

Here's the deal...do YOU think you need to get some non-druggie friends? Ask yourself seriously...I mean, are they bad? Are they constantly bumming money from you, ruining your good time, skipping on fun events to get high, or tempting you with drugs?

If so, regardless of what the girl says, maybe you should consider losing your druggie friends FOR YOU, not for your girl.

If you're perfectly happy with your friends the way they are and happy with you the way you are, then don't drop them just because some chick says so. Maybe she can tell they're bringing you down...that's the only reason I suggested the introspection. If she's just jealous of the time you spend with them, then F her.

As far as being depressed...again, ARE YOU? Or is she full of sh*t?

And as far as space is concerned, give her the space. If your friends ARE cool and you AREN'T depressed, then you'll find a new girl who appreciates you ANYWAY.

Always be willing to hear people out, but if they feed you bull****, you dont' have to eat it. Even if she has boobies.

 

[Trapspringer]

Pretty much agree with squirrels. For one, when someone says they need space, give it to them. I believe it can be very healthy in a relationship and it isn't as drastic as actually breaking up which may not be necessary if space is given.

One minute she loves you and one minute she hates you. You can say, something is wrong with her but you have to ask yourself if your behavior is erratic enough to upset someone like this. If one minute you are lovable the next minute you are a demon-- Only you know those details but you might want to think about it more.


As far as the friends go, are they holding you back at all? If not, don't give up your friends because we all know the value of good friendships. But if the firends are bad for you and she really cares for you, she may just be looking out for your best interest. If she just don't like them then that is her problem. It is an extremely bold request to ask someone to give up their friends but not insane if the friends are very negative influences in your life.

 

[ManOMan]

nan, did your g/f bust on your friends as an excuse? or do you guys fight about the same issue alot?

I cant seem to comprehend if a girl is really into a guy, that she is so concerned about yor future, that she starts picking and choosing your friends?

Dont get snowballed or avalanched here with all this, if you give her space and get rid of your friends, you will be stuck with neither of them around and even more depressed

Keep your friends at bay, and try not to get involved in their stangnant, druggy lifestyle

Your girl will come back, just let her miss you for a bit, all should be well. I think this is a sh1t test to see what lengths you will go to for her

 

[DEKKA]

sounds to me like it's over between you two. i think this relationship is on the way out if not already gone.

when women need "space" you can pretty much kiss your a$$ goodbye. it's usually respect issue and thus pretty hard if not impossible to fix. you're better off finding a new woman who respects you. this one's history.

 

[Jvesti]

dude day after day i hear a different problem with this chick

she's probably taking those 2 weeks to get back with her ex she danced with at the club. Either stand ur ground and not talk to her and get what you want out of her or dump her ass and forget about her.

Either way you keep askin what you should do over the same issues. There are two choices you can make.

After you make these decisions and not stand in the middle of the road you won't be needin to post help questions here.

Either start wearin the pants on this manipulative chick or dump her. End of discussion

 

[MetalFortress]

Originally posted by nan3109
yeah, but i think it keeps the board active when people discuss stuff like this. I'm sure there's quite a few guys who read this and ALL my of my forums and learned a thing or two about becoming a don juan.

Honestly, when I read your posts, all I learn is what NOT to do. It doesn't matter fi it keeps the board active or not if it's short changing you.

 

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