Long story short, I've been talking to this girl for a few months, and just "sealed the deal" about a month ago (not a ho, made me wait). We've been talking a lot lately and she's beginning to show a lot of interest in a "relationship" (although she hasn't verbally expressed it) she's taken me out with her friends and made it known that she was mine and they've all approved. We saw each other a few days in a row, and she wanted to hang out again, which I thought would be too much. I thought about it and told her Id call her if I was available that night. Long story short I stayed out with my friend and text her around 1:30 to say I wasn't going to make it to her house that night, mostly because I didn't want to be too available. All I sent was a basic "whats up, ____" text to feel out what she was doing around 1:15. She must have gone to sleep and got back to me the next morning saying "Don't booty-call me at 1:30" I didn't responde and a half hour later she sent a "half smile emoji" indicating she was just being playful. Regardless, I didn't really have a good response, wasn't actually booty calling her, got busy at work and didn't feel like texting so I never answered.
So my question is this, in situations like this and in the "comfort/rapport " phase will ignoring and not responding to a girls text increase interest, or make you seem disinterested/into playing games and cause her to find attention elsewhere. Because I've seen valid arguments for both sides.
Also, as a side note, everything has been good with us, sex is great, she shows interest, and generally chases me, but I feel I may be a little too unavailable, and may not be building enough comfort/investing enough. She even made a statement that day that I never called HER, which is generally true, I usually let the girls initiate phone conversation and chase. Because of my introverted personality, I'm just not the type to genearally call anyone first. Like I said I'm just thinking that, while I did a good job in the game phase, I may be holding my cards a little too close to my chest now that weve already had (good) sex and shes expressed interest in coming back for more.
So my question is this, in situations like this and in the "comfort/rapport " phase will ignoring and not responding to a girls text increase interest, or make you seem disinterested/into playing games and cause her to find attention elsewhere. Because I've seen valid arguments for both sides.
Also, as a side note, everything has been good with us, sex is great, she shows interest, and generally chases me, but I feel I may be a little too unavailable, and may not be building enough comfort/investing enough. She even made a statement that day that I never called HER, which is generally true, I usually let the girls initiate phone conversation and chase. Because of my introverted personality, I'm just not the type to genearally call anyone first. Like I said I'm just thinking that, while I did a good job in the game phase, I may be holding my cards a little too close to my chest now that weve already had (good) sex and shes expressed interest in coming back for more.
