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ignoring her after she flakes on you, the do's and dont's?

drift king

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i've had 2 situations where girls have been flakey with me the past 2 weeks when i suggested meeting up again they tell me to call them rather than giving me a straight yes for the next day.

i dont accept this so now i ignore them, where i say hi and smile but nothing more. it seems to work cos the 1st 1 is beginning to start initiating convo with me cos shes wondering why im not all over her anymore. doesnt mean shes interested but still..

the 2nd, i have to ignore now cos i tried to arrange a date and she never replied to me..

but.. when u see the girls, and ignore them and they eventually come back to u to initiate convo, what should u do?

should u chat briefly act as if shes taking up your time and u need to be somewhere, be polite then vacate the situation?

is it highly possible she'll just not care and stop saying hi to u when she realises you're ignoring her/bitter?

this is the reason why i'd smile just to show it's amicable and im not bitter she flaked/didn't respond to me. will this eat them up inside if they used to have some interest in you?
 

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women haze

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She flaked on you, that means she isn't interested.....

Why even give them the time of day or the worth of your word??
Even flat out maybe ask them...when I tried to call you never returned it.. What's up?
 

drift king

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but if it was my fault that i acted too keen or desperate is why she lost interest, i mean because i acted that way i shouldn't be surprised she flaked.

so i assume you just say hi and smile be polite but no chit chat, show you were unaffected by her flaking/non responding.

eventually she'll try to initiate contact with u, so u just carry on as normal as this is just a test from to see if you are still interested?

im also talking about girls who give you flakey answers for meeting up rather than a straight yes.
 
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God gave you a mouth to speak so use it. Don't pressure them, don't lie to them, and be completely honest in telling them what you want. It's obviously what you're saying, maybe you're just not subtle enough or bluntly stated you're not at their physical attraction level.
 
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