Ignored by girls in a coffee shop

[AreYouSingleFemale]

So I walked into this lounge coffee shop and went upstairs. In the middle of the space there was a small shallow water pool in which there was a table and chairs around it, which were occupied by 4 girls in bare feet seem to be having gr8 fun. One of them was good looking. I took a table got myself a tea. I've never approached a group of more than 2 members so I was calming my nerves.. Besides there were a couple of waiters standing around that water pool I mentioned. Then I got myself up, took a few strolls in the open terrace area , then walked towards the pool and stood there like I was curious about this water pool setup. Of course I eyed the girls. I waited for one of them to look at me (there was just a 2 feet distance between us) so that I could say something like "Is it fun to be sitting on the water like that?". A waited a few seconds, and I was completely ignored, noone looked at me. I felt like they were hostile towards me and moved away cursing myself for the wasted Rs.35 for the tea. Sometime later they came out of the pool and sat at a table in front of me but I didn't feel like talking to them, having been insulted. Wasted Rs.35 and half an hour.

 

[slaog]

Maybe they think it's rude to stare at people?


Also it could have been the way you approached. If you were nervous they probably would have picked up on it. Its best for you to make the first move by saying something to them. Sometimes people don't open up automatically and you have to make them feel comfortable around you before they open up.

 

[AreYouSingleFemale]

I was initially pissed about approaching a group but soon cooled down so I don't think they picked on my nervousness.
It is difficult not to make one glance at a almost 6 foot tall guy standing close-by, and that says something, don't it?

 

[daygameguy]

Staring = OK only for like 3 secs, after which you should open your mouth.

They cannot read your mind you know. you gotta say something.

"You guys seem to be having a lot of fun! I would join you but I dont wanna wet my clothes swimming through the water lol"

^^ see you are already assuming that they love you.

Great smile = great reaction.

^^this works for guys as well. Have you ever seen a guy get beat up while he was smiling.. well there are exceptions, but you get my point right?

 

[facadegeniality]

you are in india right?

thought it is pretty conservative there? okay, i meant VERY

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

It happens man, but next time....go up to them directly i'd say. they'd react different i bet ;-).