You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Here we go again...are you still sore because I responded to your "I'm hot" post with "I'm hotter"? Apparently you are under the impression that you can only be sarcastic and have a sense of humor if you're sporting a penis. Try again...Originally posted by Don_Joffe
Why on earth are you making "Ignore Wyldfire" the underlying meaning behind that is "I NEED YOU WYLDFIRE" - whats your AFC problem? By making thread's with her name you are automatically egoboosting her, she is an attetion *****.
Where did I ask for an apology? And goddamn it, stop acting like a f*cking victim...YOU are the one who started the argument in the first place. If you want it to end all you have to do is simply shut up. It's really quite simple.Originally posted by rgeere
I don't see a reason to appologize for something I didn't start, and I don't understand why there is such a degree of personalization over a matter of simple female physiology and outlook. If you want to take this personal, then it is none of my concern and I have no reason to apologize for some personal problem that I had no thought or purpose of incurring.
I suppose you could continue your insults, but I never intended to disrespect you; in fact I have a little less respect for you now the way I have been treated. But that is no reason for me to treat you the same way.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I think you are taking this forum too seriously.Originally posted by Wyldfire
I worked TOO hard to become a respected member of this forum
Not to mention respect can be lost as quickly as it is gained ...Originally posted by diplomatic_lie
I think you are taking this forum too seriously.
Its an INTERNET FORUM. At the flick of a switch it could be shut down. At the tap of a button it could erase itself in a second.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Biotch, please...the only thing you "beat" is your meat.Originally posted by Don_Joffe
Wyldfire: You are a slut. You come onto these forums to try "beat" people. Ive beaten you, why? I own you.
Sart, we HAVE disagreed before...and we didn't end up going back and forth. In fact, with most people it never becomes a back and forth. The only time it happens is when someone decides to attack ME instead of the post I made. I've always been very consistent regarding these little arguments. As long as a person doesn't attack me personally I am polite, tactful and very easy to get along with. However, if they choose to make personal attacks, I WILL let them have it with both barrels.Originally posted by Sart
My "point" is that whenever Wyldfire states a position, someone attacks that position, she then defends it and.......on we go. The thread becomes and obsessive attack/counter attack that is pointless. Its almost as pointless as watching Don Joffe and Auquitas argue who has the bigger jolly roger.
A DJ would either agree or disagree with a position, but wouldn't spend effort trying to bother to undermine a woman on this site.
I know I am not that popular on this site because I call them as I see them, but really....Re Read this whole thread and see who you think is at fault. If Wyldfire has an opinion that I dont agree with, I may say something, or I may ignore it, but why start a revolving debate over it?
That would be like me attacking some 22 year old, obviously immature and nerdy little fella just because he attacked me with all the finesse and wit of say, Marcus? hahahaha. Sorry, couldn't help it.
Wyldfire WILL NOT let an argument go, she just wont do it. So, my point is, why derail a briloiant thread with tit for tat, when you could just stay relevant to that thread?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.