"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ignore or withdraw from girlfriend?

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In the morning before work she is usually happy, flirty, affectionate, kisses me before we leave for work... But this morning I could tell something was up. I didn't say anything I just acted normal and when she left there was no kiss etc.. she just walked out the door and said bye with kind of an attitude. (She is on her period but it usually doesn't affect her behaviour towards me)

My old beta ways tried to kick in and ask her what's up and appease but luckily I know better than that now so I just ignored it.

Now what is the best way to handle this? Do I ignore it and carry on normally with her or do I withdraw attention/affection from her? We live together.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Willard

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You withdraw attention from her, better yet go out with friends and ignore her that way.
 

Poon King

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Here we go with the female BS , mind games and sh!t tests. Right one time. :yes:

It always happens when things are "going great" and you feel comfortable. Why? Because women can't stand a happy/comfortable carefree life or a life without drama. They MUST have drama.

How do you deal with it? The answer is by giving her a reason to act like a b!tch. That's always been my policy. If I'm kind to a woman and she acts like a c*nt for no reason.. then I give her a reason to act like a c*nt by decreasing my respect/affection/attention.

The reason you do this is because this woman has just told you with her actions that she isn't worthy of a high level of respect. Those who want respect GIVE respect.

In a relationship a woman should treat her man like royalty 24/7.. as men are superior. Anything less is grounds for demotion to f*ck buddy. But most modern men have no self-respect so they tolerate psychological and emotional abuse from women.

To ALL MEN: Does your woman treat you like royalty? If not.. you're a beta loser for committing to her. She should only be a f*ck toy.
 

El Payaso

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I'm guessing you guys live together. I feel bad for you. This is why I hate shacking up together. As opposed to when you aren't living together, this type of sh!t is easy to deal with because she knows once she walks out that door, she might not see you till God knows when.

She knows she'll come back that evening and still get to see your a$$ and be around you so she takes comfort in that.

Using the silent treatment or passive aggressive tactics on a partner is a form of emotional manipulation. She's trying to get you to break by asking her what's wrong or by supplicating to her.

Ignore it and go about your business as usual. In fact, go out and have fun or just stay inside and do many things that you enjoy. Let her see that her negative bullsh!t behavior doesn't affect you.

When she sees this, she will start trying her hardest to get you to notice she's upset. When it doesn't work, she might lash out at you.

Don't flinch. Don't get upset. Just stare her coldly in the face and say "If something made you upset, tell me but don't use it as an opportunity to take out your anger at me" and leave it at that. She might blab on but ignore and go about your business.
 

mikey2012

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She's going for another dude. Dump her before she dumps you.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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She mentioned the other day that she wants to be equal in the relationship and that she knows I won't be used to it because she knows I am always dominant with each girlfriend.

What the fvck.
 

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withdraw attention, she goes cold, you go ice cold then wait for her to come crawling back to you OR you guys can just break up and you can go meet new girls, focus on your career and maybe even visit your family to say hi
 

mikey2012

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Tell her to fvck herself. She's trying to power play you. If you give in then she will know you are weak and you she will dump you eventually .
 
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