"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ignore MOST advice given to you.

jd782

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Ok.
One thing I've discovered when getting advice from others is. It's what THEY would do in a certain situation. But what works for one person might not be the best for another. Show of hands. Who has gotten advice from a friend, or here on Sosuave, and gotten 50 different answers for one question? I have. Many times. And I left feeling more confused then when I started. It's not that the advice I was given was wrong, but, like I said, it's what that person would do as an individual.

Alot of advice is useful, such as, being relaxed, keep a good attitude, be funny and confident, Etc. These are universal. Look at your personality, don't try to be something you are not. I was never the bad boy or romatic guy. I was the funny guy. I realized this. So, I used this to my advatage. And this is what has worked for me.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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KontrollerX

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The advice you have to take from here is what one person says that you agree with on an instinctual gut instinct level where you say ya know what? I think what this guy here has to say applies to my situation and will work for me too. The rest of the posters? Well I appreciate their advice but this one guy is on my wavelength. I'll try what he says.

Its like how Victory Unlimited said you gotta pick the advice here that you feel will work for you as though you are selecting from a table of weapons appropriate to your situation.

You can take the bazooka of disinterest or the Uzi of Kino or whatever the point is there is a whole lot of weapons here ie different advice to choose from that you have to feel out is good for yourself and your situation lol.
 

blueguy

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I'd have to agree. You have to figure out what works best for you since we all have our own strengths and weaknesses. The only positive thing that can come out of an interaction here is an opening of your mind and considering new possibilities, but in the end, you have to relate it to your own abilities.
 
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