"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Ignore MOST advice given to you.

jd782

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Ok.
One thing I've discovered when getting advice from others is. It's what THEY would do in a certain situation. But what works for one person might not be the best for another. Show of hands. Who has gotten advice from a friend, or here on Sosuave, and gotten 50 different answers for one question? I have. Many times. And I left feeling more confused then when I started. It's not that the advice I was given was wrong, but, like I said, it's what that person would do as an individual.

Alot of advice is useful, such as, being relaxed, keep a good attitude, be funny and confident, Etc. These are universal. Look at your personality, don't try to be something you are not. I was never the bad boy or romatic guy. I was the funny guy. I realized this. So, I used this to my advatage. And this is what has worked for me.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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KontrollerX

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The advice you have to take from here is what one person says that you agree with on an instinctual gut instinct level where you say ya know what? I think what this guy here has to say applies to my situation and will work for me too. The rest of the posters? Well I appreciate their advice but this one guy is on my wavelength. I'll try what he says.

Its like how Victory Unlimited said you gotta pick the advice here that you feel will work for you as though you are selecting from a table of weapons appropriate to your situation.

You can take the bazooka of disinterest or the Uzi of Kino or whatever the point is there is a whole lot of weapons here ie different advice to choose from that you have to feel out is good for yourself and your situation lol.
 

blueguy

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I'd have to agree. You have to figure out what works best for you since we all have our own strengths and weaknesses. The only positive thing that can come out of an interaction here is an opening of your mind and considering new possibilities, but in the end, you have to relate it to your own abilities.
 
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