"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ignore her or pretend like nothing happened?

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So there's this one girl I've been talking to recently that happens to be in all of my academic classes in high school. Here's a text conversation from yesterday:

Me: what's it like being a lesbian?(long-running inside joke)
Her: i can't answer that because I'm not a lesbian
Me: idk that! Are you single?
Her: haha yep
Me: I don't believe that.
Her: haha thanks
Me: you're kinda too cute to not be taken.
Her: haha thanks. But I like being single.
Me: we'll you can't blame a guy for trying haha.

It's impossible to ignore her because we sit next to each other in every class. Should I just remain indifferent and keep flirting or tone it down completely? Thanks for any suggestions
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Keep flirting, and you stay in control. Never apologise or whatever for your actions. Your frame must be stronger than hers.

Other than that, set up a "date" with her, something fun. And with friends, or alone if she's comfortable. Just kiss her, and she's yours.
 
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Dont Sh*t where you eat man. I dont think i could ever date a girl in any of my classes because if something were to go wrong it will be uncomfortable for a while, but thats just me. Like apocolipto said keep on flirting with her because she wasnt giving you to bad of signals. Except, That last text you sent should of been thought out waay more. Stuff like that could possibly leave you in the friendzone.
 
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Thanks for the responses. I have to remember that texting allows for thoughtful planning and doesn't require a quick response. I felt as if the "But I like being single" gave off a back off dude type of response. Apparently I was wrong.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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She framed it as though she's miss perfect and can pick and choose between ****s. You should reframe the conversation to your benefit.

Although, I know how you felt when receiving that msg. Have been there.
 
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