Ignorant rejection or attention seeking?

[Jariel]

I went on a date last night and things went really well. She was showing sky high interest, lots of touching, compliments and flirting, she even mentioned cooking for me in the future and asked if I was free to meet again on the Sunday. At the end of the night we kissed and she asked me to get in touch and let her know when I'm next free.

Now, I have blown past situations like this by texting straight away and reassuring her so I decided to hold off texting her. We have had no contact today, but around mid-day she deleted me from her Facebook friends.

This girl confessed to me that she likes to be chased and can be stubborn. We lost contact once before because she said I was too cool and wasn't showing interest.

What do you think? Is she playing hard to get or attention seeking, or is this just a very ignorant way of rejecting me?

 

[LoneWolf]

Another dumb female playing games.

 

[SoSuaveDude]

keep her at bay, but move on. Definitely don't get emotionally attached to her or pursue a relationship with her. She's proven to be unreliable and a likely attention seeker.

 

[Love's Orphan]

This test smells like sh!t... She said she likes been chased... Well, dont chase and you will see what happens

 

[Juan Don]

keep her at bay, but move on. Definitely don't get emotionally attached to her or pursue a relationship with her. She's proven to be unreliable and a likely attention seeker.

this. don't give in to her b.s. act like it doesn't bother you. when you're with her you have a good time. when she behaves like this. don't feed into it. she will wonder why you're not reacting like all the other guys. and this will show her that you are a man of value. i guarantee you her frame will change and you will be the one in control.

 

[bigneil]

How do you know she deleted you? Sometimes people take their account offline and they temporarily disappear from your friend list (and you can't find them searching).

If she touched you, kissed you and made future plans together, that's a good date. You want 3 out of 4 with the 4th being she compliments you (Doc Love).

If you go NC there is a very high chance she will contact you again. Wait it out and start looking for a new girl either way.

 

[exile663dfx]

This girl confessed to me that she likes to be chased and can be stubborn.

This is extremely amusing Jariel. She wants you to chase her. Such stupidity in a woman.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Why care what shes doing on Facebook. Your supposed to be the catch. When you want to chill with her?... Then ask her to come. You spend a lot of time thinking about whats in these girls head. Just do you and handle your business.

and to me theres no such thing as a sh!t test. It just means your messing with a wack chick or your game aint tight enough.

 

[Johnnyventana]

p.s. If she did temporarily deactivate her account. This is a red flag. She is doing this to "screw" with someone. To pretend she unfriended them, only to soon re-activate, and she's back. Watch for a pattern of this. If it is there, she's cray.

 

[Jariel]

Well I've not heard from her and I refuse to contact her. Either way, she's blown it. If her way of rejecting me is to send me a hint like this, then good riddance. I won't waste another second on her.

If it's a game, then it shows how childish she is and how she can't communicate like an adult. Definitely not someone I want to waste my time with.

I've got a date lined up next week so I'm not going to lose any sleep over this.

 

[Jariel]

p.s. If she did temporarily deactivate her account. This is a red flag. She is doing this to "screw" with someone. To pretend she unfriended them, only to soon re-activate, and she's back. Watch for a pattern of this. If it is there, she's cray.

No, her profile is still online, she just deleted me. I found it very disrespectful and it's really killed my attraction for her.

 

[Zerro]

No, her profile is still online, she just deleted me. I found it very disrespectful and it's really killed my attraction for her.

Indeed, I had a chick who did this and not only did she delete me but she blocked me as well (only needed a mutual friend to confirm that her account still existed). Happened without any apparent warning and rather silly as we have enough mutual friends that it was very likely that'd we run into each other again anyway but even so I was offended enough that I won't give her the time of day even if she tries to come back in the future.

 

[Johnnyventana]

I bet she's just dying for you to ask her, "Why did you delete me? Bla bla bla."

Nice work, NOT doing that. It will drive her crazy. Her behavior is odd.

 

[rhcp83]

Well I've not heard from her and I refuse to contact her. Either way, she's blown it. If her way of rejecting me is to send me a hint like this, then good riddance. I won't waste another second on her.

If it's a game, then it shows how childish she is and how she can't communicate like an adult. Definitely not someone I want to waste my time with.

I've got a date lined up next week so I'm not going to lose any sleep over this.

You've admitted to playing similar games with women. You can't have it both ways. What goes around comes around etc. .

 

[Jariel]

You've admitted to playing similar games with women. You can't have it both ways. What goes around comes around etc. .

That's true to a certain degree. I've learned the hard way that if you show a girl too much interest or make any attempt to reassure her, she will back off. So I try to withhold my interest and play cool, just to keep that tension there.

Maybe that's what made her react this way. I think she expected me to text her when I got home last night, but I didn't. Nor did I text her this morning, so maybe she has reacted to that. But she always had the choice to drop me a text or wait to see if I'd text her later.

 

[Robert28]

I went on a date last night and things went really well. She was showing sky high interest, lots of touching, compliments and flirting, she even mentioned cooking for me in the future and asked if I was free to meet again on the Sunday. At the end of the night we kissed and she asked me to get in touch and let her know when I'm next free.

Now, I have blown past situations like this by texting straight away and reassuring her so I decided to hold off texting her. We have had no contact today, but around mid-day she deleted me from her Facebook friends.

This girl confessed to me that she likes to be chased and can be stubborn. We lost contact once before because she said I was too cool and wasn't showing interest.

What do you think? Is she playing hard to get or attention seeking, or is this just a very ignorant way of rejecting me?

if i could tell you how many dates i've had like this and never heard from the girl again, you wouldn't believe me.

 

[Jariel]

if i could tell you how many dates i've had like this and never heard from the girl again, you wouldn't believe me.

It's so frustrating isn't it? It happens to me a LOT too. It would make more sense if she wasn't interested in the first place or we didn't click, but these chicks go from really high interest, verging on obsessive, to nothing overnight.

You just can't rationalise something like that.

 

[Robert28]

It's so frustrating isn't it? It happens to me a LOT too. It would make more sense if she wasn't interested in the first place or we didn't click, but these chicks go from really high interest, verging on obsessive, to nothing overnight.

You just can't rationalise something like that.

it gets worse as you get older. women didn't play these games when you were in highschool or college it seemed. hit the age of 26+ and it changes overnight. all of a sudden they flake, you can't tell if a girl is TRULY interested because she is sending ALL the right signals but you don't REALLY know if she is or not. I've had girls that "seemed" interested, extend our date only to give me a chee to kiss at the end of the night. if i'm not interested in someone, i don't send signals that i am, and i surely don't keep the date going. that's what i can't figure out about women, it's almost as if they don't want to go home, they'd rather hangout with a guy they aren't interested in then say "f it" and go home. sorry, but i'm not going to willfully hangout with someone 3-4 hours if i'm not feeling it.

 

[Serg897]

Well I've not heard from her and I refuse to contact her. Either way, she's blown it. If her way of rejecting me is to send me a hint like this, then good riddance. I won't waste another second on her.

This is the way to see it. No more jumping through hoops women set up for you in the hopes that maybe you will have a chance with them. You text right away and she loses interest. You hold off texting and she loses interest. There are no universal rules here and every female will be different. If she really liked you she wouldnt be playing these ridiculous stupid games. Move on.

 

[Mike32ct]

it gets worse as you get older. women didn't play these games when you were in highschool or college it seemed. hit the age of 26+ and it changes overnight. all of a sudden they flake, you can't tell if a girl is TRULY interested because she is sending ALL the right signals but you don't REALLY know if she is or not. I've had girls that "seemed" interested, extend our date only to give me a chee to kiss at the end of the night. if i'm not interested in someone, i don't send signals that i am, and i surely don't keep the date going. that's what i can't figure out about women, it's almost as if they don't want to go home, they'd rather hangout with a guy they aren't interested in then say "f it" and go home. sorry, but i'm not going to willfully hangout with someone 3-4 hours if i'm not feeling it.

Yeah I've had plenty of very long dates where they seemed quite interested, and the conversation just flowed for hours.

But then zero interest level afterwards.