Ignite Interest

[Aesthetix29]

hey! Long story short I was seeing a lass, things just tapered off .. Like texting/phone calls etc.. I assume she was dating others. It's like now tho , she does everything to avoid me and I know that when we do actually see each other again things will be quite awkward. What's the best way to act and is there anyway I can reignite interest? She liked me at the start so it must of been something I did or didn't do. Or is this a lost cause?

Just joined back at the gym today ... I'm newly self employed so I'm broke and back at home not too mention business is really quiet. If I'm honest I feel low, useless and in a bad place ... Surely there's light at the end of the tunnel.

 

[grayclif]

hey! Long story short I was seeing a lass, things just tapered off .. Like texting/phone calls etc.. I assume she was dating others. It's like now tho , she does everything to avoid me and I know that when we do actually see each other again things will be quite awkward. What's the best way to act and is there anyway I can reignite interest? She liked me at the start so it must of been something I did or didn't do. Or is this a lost cause?

Just joined back at the gym today ... I'm newly self employed so I'm broke and back at home not too mention business is really quiet. If I'm honest I feel low, useless and in a bad place ... Surely there's light at the end of the tunnel.

If this is how you feel maybe this isn't the right time for dating. Also, obsessing over this girl is pointless. If you think your next interaction will be awkward then it probably will be awkward. I'd leave that one alone and focus on yourself and your business. When your back in shape and business looks up then you should be spinning plates.

 

[Aesthetix29]

Chasing a woman who shows low interest, when you already feel down in life, is just going to reinforce a feeling of weakness in yourself. Chasing that way comes from desperation. Nothing about it feels good to you. Nothing about it is attractive to women.

Indifference is the master key. Move on from her and do not give her another thought. Focus on you, your life and filling the blank slate in front of you with brand new plates.

If you had five new possible plates would you still want to chase this former one or would you be excited and busy with the new ones? Get out and meet new women. Push yourself. Be willing to get out of your comfort zone and create a new reality for yourself.

You sound like you are at a place that if you wallow too long, you could find yourself in a rut. Do not allow that! Demand more from yourself! Move yourself out of feeling low, weak, and maybe depressed by getting out of your head and taking action, every single day!

Everyday, do something physical like weights, run, HIIT, something that gets you to really exert yourself physically. Get your endorphins flowing. Invest in your own well-being.

Maybe business is quiet right now. Use that extra time to your advantage and plant seeds for future success, in your business or somewhere in your life. Make that free time count!

Get out of the past. Focus on and invest in building your dreams!

Thanks this is just what I needed ... I'm back at the gym, diets almost on point. And I am trying to generate work ... A lot of it boils down to being where I'm at in life at this moment in time, I should get back in shape pretty quickly due to muscle memory as I was big last year. And improve my looks with getting a tan etc... I'm just at a loose end on the financial front ... As I'm 31 and broke.

 

[Mot1veProgress]

You don't have to make things awkward. Next time you see her, have a great impression on her. That can lead to a whole new thing once again.

 

[Aesthetix29]

Thanks for all the advice ... I'm just working on myself at the moment ... Then see what happens

 

[RangerMIke]

With women it's never about one interaction... it's a campaign. You can have the best date EVER in your life, and the next week her emotions take her in a different direction and she vanishes. It's never about anything you a have done, it's what have you done lately. This isn't bad... it's actually good because while they have a short memory for good things you do... it's the same for bad.

The best advice is to work on yourself and your life... stay focused on being great by yourself. Any female problems work themselves out. Women will drift in and out, and you just have to let them do this... but if you are a good option, trust me she will come back.

 

[Aesthetix29]

Just going to have some time out I think ... I am on the road to recovery, just seems to be one thing after another!