"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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If you're plate knows you're fehking other slvts, doesn't that just increase interest

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Some guys seem to be scared of their plates finding out they are messing with multiple women.

But, in my experience, this only seems to be a good thing.

Every time a girl has seen me with a decent looking woman, her interest in me has increased. No exceptions.

So, not only should you not try to hide it, you should try to make sure you're plate finds out (unless you want her gone lol).

Women are programmed to want desirable alpha males. Just think of all the women who were sleeping with Tiger when they knew about all his dirty dog ways.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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It increases interest but also increases drama, drunk phone calls and unattractive desperate behaviour. I'm getting to the point where I prefer girls to not be too invested to prevent those things from happening. I've had a girl shouting at me through my bedroom window whilst another girl was in my bed at 3am, there is no upside to that.
 

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It depends on the girl. In my experience low self esteem chicks who are drawn to drama tend to chase a guy more just because hes got other girls to hook up with. The more high quality, no nonsense women with higher self esteem dont stand for that...especially if they are more relationship minded. Those women will be quick to cut you loose.

So ask yourself if you want a woman whos attracted to drama or not.

And regarding Tiger Woods...dont compare his life to average people. He basically had golddigging dum smuts chasing him. And many ran to the press for a payday once they realized Tiger wouldnt be taking care of them. Women desire "alphas", but they also desire commitment a lot of the time. If Tiger was so alpha, his wife wouldnt have kicked his ass and then left him.
 

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So What's Your Issue?

skinnyguy said:
Some guys seem to be scared of their plates finding out they are messing with multiple women.

But, in my experience, this only seems to be a good thing.

Every time a girl has seen me with a decent looking woman, her interest in me has increased. No exceptions.

So, not only should you not try to hide it, you should try to make sure you're plate finds out (unless you want her gone lol).

Women are programmed to want desirable alpha males. Just think of all the women who were sleeping with Tiger when they knew about all his dirty dog ways.
So you are smashing chicks, then what's your issue? Anyway, Rex has covered in this thread, http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=211700

Mr Wright said:
It increases interest but also increases drama, drunk phone calls and unattractive desperate behaviour. I'm getting to the point where I prefer girls to not be too invested to prevent those things from happening. I've had a girl shouting at me through my bedroom window whilst another girl was in my bed at 3am, there is no upside to that.
That's when managing expectations and setting boundaries come into play. If you messing with more than one broad, you have to make that plain to the other plates, then at that point she's going to have a decision to make, either she's going to walk or she's going to be with the program. If she finds out later that she doesn't like the arrangement and wants to act a fool, then you have to check her and be explicitly clear that if she wants to mess with these are the terms of the agreement and if she gets out of line again, she'll never see you again. Again, she'll either comply or walk. What ever decision that she makes, you'll come out the winner.
 

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Maximus Rex said:
That's when managing expectations and setting boundaries come into play. If you messing with more than one broad, you have to make that plain to the other plates, then at that point she's going to have a decision to make, either she's going to walk or she's going to be with the program. If she finds out later that she doesn't like the arrangement and wants to act a fool, then you have to check her and be explicitly clear that if she wants to mess with these are the terms of the agreement and if she gets out of line again, she'll never see you again. Again, she'll either comply or walk. What ever decision that she makes, you'll come out the winner.
I see what you mean but if you're explicitly saying "I'm going to be smashing other broads and you should be cool with it," it's too much too soon. You can tell a girl whatever you want but once they've got an idea in their head, they will probably follow up with it so just because you've said XYZ to her, it doesn't mean she won't act like a prick. I don't like the idea of lay down terms and conditions to a casual thing, I think inevitable a chick will catch feelings if you f*ck her right and her knowing that you're banging other chicks sounds like a car crash waiting to happen. Some girls will be cool but chicks are emotional and really hate the idea of someone they see as their man banging someone else, they're not rational enough to see that at the start.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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A girl may get rid of you for this because her ego or reputation may be on the line with her girlfriends. Logically, she may have to cut you lose because she cannot afford to have this on her conscious or in public knowledge that your banging other chicks and she's monogamous with you. However, although she may be forced to let you go - she will still be attracted to you and probably hate you at the same time.
 
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