If you watch MTV you've seen this great example

[FreeStyleZ]

For the previews for the next real world they have a girl on there who is talking about how she always used to tell her self she liked the nice guy. There is a guy in the house though who is loud c+f, has no manners and all that.. and she admittedly said she's becoming attracted to him and doesnt know why. I think this just is a perfect example for newbies that attraction isnt a choice, or conscious decision.. its an emotion... an automatic resopnse.

 

[becker]

Yeah, I saw that, it was the first episode. The girl from Georgia, who's quite hot, but just a typical wild girl.

The attraction comes from the fact that the guy is funny, but also from the fact that he's not all pathetic like most guys who get shot down.

I've found that the most important thing is that as a guy, you can attract anyone by being a fun person to be around. This applies in all aspects, not just getting women.

Just think about it this way, the people you choose to hang out with are likely people who have something about them that makes you like being around them. Most people have friends who are maybe really funny, and that makes them interesting, especially if you have a good sense of humor yourself. However, if you're all serious and lack a funny bone in your body, then maybe you won't be so attracted to a funny person and will choose not to hang out with them.

Most of the time though, humor is pretty universal. That's the reason for C+F and stuff like that. In the end, it's just being a cool person to be around. People like to be around people who are nice to be around. You normally wouldn't want to hang around all day with someone who is always negative and hanging their head and saying what a pathetic loser they are, etc. It starts getting irritating after a while.

Anyways, this is why the first step in attraction, since it's not a choice, is to make sure that the girl enjoys your company by making sure that you guys have a good time together without the emotional baggage. Then, and only after she starts to send signals that you're actually more attractive than she thought do you move in closer.

 

[DJ Alejandro]

field report: from my humping dog to a model

i can say that after my last field report which was basically smashing my ego, now im a lot more immune and ive had better experiences already.

1st approach:

was walking out from the room and they went to the campus ministry office where i get to borrow guitars. im not really good at it yet but im still learning. a girl who was good at the guitar was strumming along while i sat around 7 feet from her. that was cuz i didn't really look at her. i just sat.

my friends came over and my friend who was a very good guitar player was joking around that i didn't know how to play. i didn't mind so i just gave him the guitar. i guess the girl heard the whole thing that's why she was looking at me a few times. that second EC i got from her, i went over and said hello. i asked her about how she learned blah blah... she was ok but i just felt that our convo wasn't right. cant explain. it just was heavy. turns out she was an activist and quite stuck up on herself.

she kept on blabbling after i asked her name about how she was this and that...

me: so, what's ur name?
her: lou.. blah blah..
me: <smile> (BORED....)
me: so, where ya from?
her: im from xxxx... im a valedictorian and my uncle's a congressman for XXXX(a left leaning group) so im quite an activist.
me: oh..
her: yeah, you can think all you want about me but i dont think you have the right to judge me.
me: not really. i have all the respect for people who have principles. provided it is within the boundary of the law. (thinking to self: WHAT??!!! i haven't even said anything yet.)

---see what i mean? too heavy!!!-----

her: wel, my uncle's blah blah blah...... (boring...) my debut is on the 10th.
me: oh wel, advance 18th. sori but i gotta go now. tc.

i cut it short cuz i couldn't take it anymore. i didn't close cuz i wasn't interested anymore.

2nd approach:

i went to another's debut last saturday and saw cute girl wearing stripes. didn't care bout anything and just came over. turns out that she already knew me from my friends. which was a good thing. i liked her eyes too. so i number closed.

3rd approach:

i went to an afterparty which was a bar with all the high society chicks partying. some of my girlfriends were there so i went in. i talked to them and grinded a bit. one of them had a cousin who was quite pretty. she wasn't really hot to me but my friends thought she was an 11 (yeah, i know.) juz to give you an idea, these girls have the bloodline of a show business dynasty.

me: hi. never seen you before.
andrea: yeah, i dont party much.
me: why? don't you dance?
andrea: i have to left feet.
me: that's okay. ei, i gotta go. let's talk later. and maybe if you behave and if there's a good song, il just get ya to the dancefloor. <smile>
andrea: okay!! <smile>

4th approach:

i was walking my dog. since my dog's quite a humper, i knew he couldn't resist a good bare leg. i stood beside a hot girl in shorts and the next thing you knew, she was grabbing on to me as my dog was pumping away. haha

after that, i offered to take her home to clean her legs. she agreed since it was just close. i talked to her quite a bit. in short, she was a very sloppy kisser.

5th approach:

i was walking in the mall when one of my batchmates in high school came over. she introduced me to her two other girlfriends. they were okay. but then i saw this HB8 and since im feeling well about myself, i made a bet with my batchmate that if i could approach the HB8, she'd buy me a shake. (this may have been very ****y considering that her friends were there but they were talking to each other. my friend agreed.) i came over to HB8 and asked the name of the guy in TMNT (Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles) who was always wearing a hockey mask. (you see, she had a pencil with leonardo as the design.

she was quite receptive. she laughed at my question. said that it was cute.

me: hi, excuse me. my friend and i were wondering, (pointing to my friend), who was that guy who was always wearing a hockey mask? you're using a leonardo pencil so i thought you'd know. <smile>
her:cute. <giggle>
me: really.
her: i think it was casey or somthn..
me: oh. i thought it was rocksteady.
her:<giggle>
me: oh wel, what's ur name?
her: XXXX
me: yeah! thanks XXXX. you just won yourself half of my shake. hehe

i number closed and we shared the shake together. at least it was fun. my friend's girlfriends saw everything so im hoping its a good thing. i was doing it for the shake anyway.

6th semi-approach:

i came over to a rival school cuz my ex was there. she introduced my to this girl who was a model. i knew she was a model cuz i recognized her face. i didn't really mind her that much cuz i think she was stuck up. really on the pedestal. and she knew it. i didn't mind her that much cuz she wasn't really my type. the model kept quiet for like a few minutes so i said:

me:ey, XXX seems like im neglecting your friend. i'll just borrow her for a sec. (i took her hand)

me: ei, i saw you last night at the bar.
her: yeah, i was bored so i went with my friends.
me: you had a nice outfit on. whre'd u get it?
her: i got it from blah.... yeah, they said i looked good in it. (obviously waiting for compliments)
me: yeah. i liked the outfit. one of my girlfriends wore it last night too. <smile>
her: WHAT??!! (the look on her face was priceless. )

after that, she kept on complaining that she thought it was one of a kind. haha i went back to my friend afterward.

that's about it. i welcome comments to improve my game. feel free to comment.

i also got approached after that. the girl asked if i was from this school. i asked for her name, where she lived but that was it. i didn't number close. i just felt not enuf convo was done. and her friends were waiting for her already. btw, the convo was done while crossing the street!!