If you want to find out the truth...

[greatmutato]

...about the way you look and what women think about your looks, there are some ways to do it where you get the brutally honest feedback.

When I was really insecure a year or two ago, I'd show my pics to random women in chat rooms and of course would get the "you aren't ugly, you look fine, there's nothing wrong with you" reassurances. Of course most women aren't going to tell you what they really think, especially when they know you're insecure and they don't want to hurt your feelings. So I'd get a little more creative. Tell girls that my girlfriend dumped me for my friend, pretend I was the friend and show pics of me and ask her what the big deal about him was. Or I'd pretend to be a girl, say that my girl friends are giving me sh*t about my boyfriend. They'd of course say "Well do you love him, that's all that matters." So I'd say I don't know and they'd say "Ok let's see the pic." And you get the truth.

Another way is to simply talk to women online as yourself, but women that don't sweat your nuts. Show them pics of you, ask them why they don't find you attractive, what it is particularly about you. If they don't like you, they won't mind telling you what they don't like unless they're trying to be nice. You can break that by hitting on or pretending to hit on them (if you don't like them) and they'll get mad and tell you what they really think.

What I found after a lot of this was that other than the girls that either found me attractive/not bad or not attractive/completely undesirable, there were girls who repeatedly called me "weird looking."

It helped me because it made me realize that women are just seeing something that isn't there. I'm about as harmless as a Richard Marx song, so if they want to see me that way, they can go back to their boyfriend who's beating them up. I'm just glad that some women do find me attractive.

 

[amoka]

Hiding behind the keyboard trying to get physique approval from a remove person sounds juvenile. Why be bordered by what others think about you, particularly someone who you may never meet or see again, and probably a homosexual portraying woman/girl character? If your look troubles YOU, do something about it.

 

[greatmutato]

This is meant for the random guys who post the "Am I Ugly?" threads every week that pop up.

You aren't going to get the honest feedback from women in real life. Women either don't want to hurt your feelings or the women tend to overexaggerate either way...i.e. "you're so hot" or "eww...(pick an adjective)." The idea is to get a general consensus so you know where you stand, and also get ideas on where to improve. For example, a girl told me that my wardrobe wasn't cutting it, and what I could wear and look good in. I didn't follow her advice word for word, but re-thought my wardrobe, bought new clothes that I feel more confident in and look better in.

And it does matter what women think, because if they find you unattractive for a particular reason that you're unaware of, you aren't going to get laid until you do something about it or learn to work around it if you can't do anything about it.

 

[theunflushables]

Honestly, the whole looks matter thing is just a fvcking crutch.

For example, I have a friend that by all standards of the deffinition is a good looking guy. However, he is extremely insecure and as soon as a woman shows interest in him, he shuts off.

I however, am maybe a little better than average in the looks department, but definitely not something to write home about. Where I differ from my friend is, I do not give a sh1t about how someone percieves my looks. Its their perception, if they don't like what they see whatever, they lose out not me.

The only person who has any stock in my appearance is myself. I eat right and exercise because I want to live healthy and not have illnesses related to obesity. I brush my teeth every morning and every night because I don't want to be toothless. I dress and style myself in a way I find appealing.

To the people saying looks matter: Stop! Its a self limiting belief. The only thing that is detrimental to your success is your negative perceptions of yourself. And you can not receive that change through validation from others, it must come from within.

 

[Metaphysical]

that's a pretty creative way to get feedback lol.

don't just ask these women for how u look. ask them how you can make yourself BETTER. that way you can improve your style and your looks.

also don't ask just ONE single woman or two. women have very different tastes. if you ask a goth girl what kind of men she likes, she will tell you, tall, skinny, lanky.

if you ask an average girl what kind of men she likes she will say tall, athletic, charming, funny.

so go for the group of girls you like.