If you used to be AFC

[Infern0]

What was the turning point for you?

I was born and bred AFC, had a real low self esteem mother who drilled into me to be mr nice guy, put women on pedestal etc.

In my case it took a BPD getting her claws into me and shaking me to within an inch of my life to realise the deal.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

I was pretty alpha in my teens and early twenties. Then I thought a LTR was the way to go; obviously being naive, thinking that no one would ever screw me over. I was too nice. And still am in some ways, but I'm learning.

Turning point was a couple of years ago when a depressive recluse even dumped me. Haa!

Then I started taking some theories and concepts more seriously. And gradually life is getting easier again. Reliance on the self and a few close friends and family is about all we can do,

By this time next year, I will be largely debt free and physically and mentally reconditioned to have the women I want chasing me again. It's a long road. But it's worth it.

 

[dustmuffin]

My turning point was being dumped from a one year relationship. Before that I was unemployed for two years, my brother died, I lost my job of 20 years and I got a divorce. My son hasn't been making proper choices so I sent him to military school.

I am suffering from depression and need to lose about 30 pounds. I am trying to claw my way back.

 

[OlympicTim]

Turning point was when I was lead on by a girl for 3 years only to have my buddy hook up with her after talking to her for 2 days.

 

[Infern0]

Turning point was when I was lead on by a girl for 3 years only to have my buddy hook up with her after talking to her for 2 days.

damn son, sorry to hear about that one.

Hope the "buddy" is gone from your life too though, that's one thing we dont need to do as men is go after the girls our friends like

 

[GS750]

the turning point for me (mid 20's) was when I had a thing for a girl but in my mind she wanted nothing to do with me. Later on I found out she had a crush on me and was waiting for me to make the first move. It was too late though, she moved out of state for grad school, never saw her again. From then on I decided I was going to make my intentions known. No regrets. Better to be rejected than to not try at all.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

I got owned and learned from my mistakes, the mistakes of others, and the success of others. I also lived in a fraternity house and a party house afterwards, so I was exposed to women behavior a lot.

 

[skinnyguy]

It took me living on my own, not listening to my parents about women, crafting my own career and having success, and not pedestalizing puss.

 

[European-DJ]

Turning point was that I wanted to get my first GF back after a breakup, I found the book of pook by coincidence, which sent me to sosuave - my perspective on dating and women completely changed from there...

 

[amazingswayze]

i got sh!tted on by girls i had major crushes for. my frustrations sent me here. i am better off for that.