If You Think It, Say It

[60Years of Challenge]

Social Mental Masturbation

This is an exercise for warming up socially very quickly at the beginning of the night and not getting into your own head. It’s also good for seeing how far off your perceptions of what you ‘think’ is going on and 'reality'. To be honest it’s also really fun.

You want to take a look at two mental processes:

1. your false perceptions of ‘her’ and ‘the situation’ (she looks mean, she wants to be left alone)

2. your own insecurities (I’m not good looking enough to talk to her)

The Exercise

You have to start a conversation with whatever the negative excuse was that you came up with for why you were going to avoid talking to her.

For example....

I see two cute women sitting very close while talking and touching. My brain comes up with the excuse “they are probably lesbians I don’t want to embarrass myself”

I start the conversation with: hey are you guys dating?

They both laugh and it’s a really good warm up .

I see a hot older woman laughing and dancing with a guy. My brain comes up with the excuse “they are probably on a date”

I start a conversation with: Hey I wanted to talk to you but I thought you were on a date.

Turns out that guy was her brother. She was really cool.

Really tall brunette. My brain says: “too tall for you and all her friends look really stuck up”. Wow this one was harder.

I open with: I wasn’t going to talk to you because you are so tall and I wasn’t sure if you were friendly.

Guess what. She was very friendly.

Mind Control

The great thing about this exercise is you start to see the difference between your negative thoughts (she looks mean) and reality (actually she was really nice). You start to realize your mind doesn't know as much as it thinks it does.

To troubleshoot or if you get any bad reactions for being honest just say that you are studying body language and you guess you aren’t that good at it yet.

Positive Vibration

When your brain starts to realize that it has to reveal it’s negativity to the world it gets positive real quick.

If you think it, you have to say it.

~ 60 Years of Challenge

 

[Bonafide]

nah ill pass...makes u come off as unsure and unconfident...not good :nono:

 

[Rhoto]

nah ill pass...makes u come off as unsure and unconfident...not good :nono:

Exactly. Not to salt your game man, but thinking things over in a hostile "pick up" environment is a surefire way to suck. Especially if it involves projecting your insecurities on other people. Though the "Are you two dating" was clever.

How to succeed? Enjoy yourself.

 

[60Years of Challenge]

Exactly. Not to salt your game man, but thinking things over in a hostile "pick up" environment is a surefire way to suck. Especially if it involves projecting your insecurities on other people. Though the "Are you two dating" was clever.

How to succeed? Enjoy yourself.

Thanks man.

Yeah it's been working good as a warmup exercise. But you are right, it's more geared for helping beginners get out of their own heads. Like you said this is about eventually helping you "not to think" because you start to see how far off your 'negative thoughts' and 'reality' really are.

Thanks for the feedback guys! Appreciate it.