"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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If you text a girl until 3am is she just being nice? (read before calling me stupid)

iCatch

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this girl showed signs of interest a year ago and i was too much of a ***** and had a huge crush on her. she soon lost interest and when i finally mustered up the courage to talk to her more she just ignored me. she probably thought i didn't like her and gave up trying to slap me with hints. she also probably sensed that i was a ***** and lost interest.

one yer later i decide to text her to see how she's doing (the day after her graduation from high school) i texted her at 11pm and she replied at 2am. w
kept texting until 3am

since she used to ignore me and didn't talk to me after i wussed out i'm starting to think she was just bored that night and twxted me back to be nice or is there a spark of interest again?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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jophil28

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The #1 method of measuring a woman's attraction towards you is her willingness to spend some time with you , one on one.
Ask her to hang out and you will have your answer.
 

ENIGMA16

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1. NEVER text a girl you haven't already developed a relationship with.
2. NEVER text a girl late at night.
3. NEVER text a girl to "see how she's doing."
4. NEVER assume a girl isn't interested.

Now obviously there are exceptions to all of these rules, and this is only about texting her and not about texting her back (i.e. if she initiates the texting), but for most situations these will hold true.

What I don't get is that you already have her number, so why don't you just call her???
 

GetOveIT

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JLay87 said:
1. NEVER text a girl you haven't already developed a relationship with.
2. NEVER text a girl late at night.
3. NEVER text a girl to "see how she's doing."
4. NEVER assume a girl isn't interested.

Now obviously there are exceptions to all of these rules, and this is only about texting her and not about texting her back (i.e. if she initiates the texting), but for most situations these will hold true.

What I don't get is that you already have her number, so why don't you just call her???
You sir gave the jist of it.

Also.... a year??? next her or call her already....
 

JEFE

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ask her to spend some time with you, convey your personality, make a move, if she is down with it the you win
is she isn´t then......YOU WIN!!!!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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horaholic

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JLay87 said:
1. NEVER text a girl you haven't already developed a relationship with.
2. NEVER text a girl late at night.
3. NEVER text a girl to "see how she's doing."
4. NEVER assume a girl isn't interested.

Now obviously there are exceptions to all of these rules, and this is only about texting her and not about texting her back (i.e. if she initiates the texting), but for most situations these will hold true.

What I don't get is that you already have her number, so why don't you just call her???
I'll give you 3 and 4, but 1 and 2 I disagree with. Most PUA's are incorporating txting into their game immediately.

Why not? As long as you aren't txting her stupid, needy or creepy stuff, she'll love it. ALL chicks do.

For example: You meet up girl at a club,and get her digits. You previously joked with her about having chicken legs. You part ways. A little while later, you send her something like "I got late night munchies.You know where to get any chicken legs this time of night? JK. nice meeting you."

Hopefully she'll laugh, and you'll be ingrained in her reality a little more. Scratch that. hopefully she'll text back with "Well, why dont you come over? I promise Im finger licking good!" You probably wont hear that with a phone call!

Texting when you first meet is a great idea. Its lighter, and less pressure. As for the late a night thing. If you're out and about on a Friday night, its never a bad idea to send a mass text out to your numbers saying something like "This is going on at this place and its a blast. Come down, or you're a big fat loser!" You never know who'll show up. Other than that, its a good idea to keep down the late night texting unless you're sure she has high IL, and if so, keep it sexual.

something like "Just saw a girl on TV that looks like you. She's wearing white lacy boy-shorts. I'll bet you wear those too, huh? My favorite:) " She'll probably write back with something witty, but if not, whatever.

Defintely dont late night text with something boring, or a dumb question. PUAs say keep your texts as statements she doesnt have to respond to.

For the OP though, you definitely should have turned it into a phone call. Text a few times back and forth, and if she is interested in it, call her.
 
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