I_Only_Live_Once
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what would be your strategy to ask her out? would you just talk to her about stuff and hope she likes you over time?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
If you like a girl who works at a coffee shop,
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
ethnomethodologist
Master Don Juan
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reyalp
Master Don Juan
what a shameless way to increase your postcount.Originally posted by ethnomethodologist
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Cheat_LBJ
Don Juan
How the hell does anyone who registered in JANUARY of '06 have over 500 posts?
Seriously, if you're spending that much time on this site...
Seriously, if you're spending that much time on this site...
ethnomethodologist
Master Don Juan
Really?!?!
You guys have no clue do you? You also bring up something you could have PMed me about in another guys thread.
Mod's could you delete the posts that are useless here? I want a few people to respond to this thread. I don't want it to be bombarded with rule breaking thumpers.
PS reset my post count as well, as well delete my title, it is useless.
You guys have no clue do you? You also bring up something you could have PMed me about in another guys thread.
Mod's could you delete the posts that are useless here? I want a few people to respond to this thread. I don't want it to be bombarded with rule breaking thumpers.
PS reset my post count as well, as well delete my title, it is useless.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
CGE333
Senior Don Juan
I have had success with a coffee shop girl in the past. First off you have to realize many of the guys and perhaps some of the women that are customers there are in to this chick. But that is okay because most of them are wimps and too afraid to ask her out, while you are a DJ.
My suggestion is if possible try and go in there when the store is note quite as busy. From there it is just the basics: smile, eye contact, throw in some kino, and tease her. I have had success in the past with the become a regular and after a few months you end up dating her approach, but I actually oppose that way now. It is a waste of time, $$$, and effort. I would say within the first couple of times you go in there you need to ask. While you are doing the above and having a great conversation act like you are in a hurry to get somewhere (besides just in her panties) and tell her you should continue the conversation later, # close her, get the # and split.
Then on your way home go into the other 5 coffee shops you pass and repeat the process. By the end of the day you will have a fresh stack of phone #'s and will have so much caffeine in you that you'll stay awake for a week.
My suggestion is if possible try and go in there when the store is note quite as busy. From there it is just the basics: smile, eye contact, throw in some kino, and tease her. I have had success in the past with the become a regular and after a few months you end up dating her approach, but I actually oppose that way now. It is a waste of time, $$$, and effort. I would say within the first couple of times you go in there you need to ask. While you are doing the above and having a great conversation act like you are in a hurry to get somewhere (besides just in her panties) and tell her you should continue the conversation later, # close her, get the # and split.
Then on your way home go into the other 5 coffee shops you pass and repeat the process. By the end of the day you will have a fresh stack of phone #'s and will have so much caffeine in you that you'll stay awake for a week.
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Invite her out for coffee. She must like coffee if she works in a shop.
Then **** her.
Then **** her.
I work at a coffee shop with a lot of girls, and trust me, the last thing you want to do is ask a girl who works in a coffee shop out for coffee. The girls I work with are pretty hot, and have had guys ask them on coffee dates while they are working, and pretty much all of them said it was too cheesy.
biker_gixxer
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I would go in and have some fun with her. Don't worry about the out come, that is added pressure you don't need.
Tease her (as CGE333 said), make her laugh, give her a thrill, get her blood flowing, make her feel happy she decided to come into work that day. Once you start doing all these things, she will start to assoicate these good feelings with 'you' (this is very powerful).
Once you see her feeling comfortable with you (she'll drop hints, look for them), then get her email or number on your way out the door.
Note: A girl doesn't like you over time, it doesn't work that way. If she decides to F your brains out, it happens very, very quickly, so be ready.
Tease her (as CGE333 said), make her laugh, give her a thrill, get her blood flowing, make her feel happy she decided to come into work that day. Once you start doing all these things, she will start to assoicate these good feelings with 'you' (this is very powerful).
Once you see her feeling comfortable with you (she'll drop hints, look for them), then get her email or number on your way out the door.
Note: A girl doesn't like you over time, it doesn't work that way. If she decides to F your brains out, it happens very, very quickly, so be ready.
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reyalp
Master Don Juan
Pre-planning the conversation isn't going to fly. You just have to be spontaneous. Although you might throw in the "See, she's happy because she's working at xxxx" bit, that usually gets a laugh out of girls at work.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.