"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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jeffthechef

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There's this HB9.4 We talked before briefly and haven't since..and i'm guessing because she was waiting for me to initiate contact.
She had a bf..i haven't checked with my sources in a month so i don't know if she still does. The thing is..i sent an email that asked for her number not directly though...I also happen to be 93% sure she's interested based on many threads on detecting interest..and my own intuition... Assuming she gives me her number and assuming she's still with that guy..what should i do?

School's starting soon too. Eventually i'll have to call perhaps a week after i get the number..or..school will start and i'll pass her by.
Should i talk to her often and become closer and hang out as friends first...or should i try to avoid contact with her right away..but wouldn't this make her think i'm not interested.

I think the best thing to do would be to get close in the first two weeks or so and then start to do other things..go to the park, movies, beach, etc. Perhaps she'll begin to think about why i don't have time.
What do you think?

P.S. I am pursuing other girls.3 to be exact. Also, this email was sent before i found this site. I'm asking for help about this girl because her picture frame is above the rest in the gallery in my mind. I would feel as though i was settling if i went with one of the other three.
Thanks:eek:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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AlexParadox

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just go for it,
what do you have to lose?
its thoughts like this that will keep you from being a man

by the way:
what is the .4, in your 9.4 rating?
 

jeffthechef

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AlexParadox said:
just go for it,
what do you have to lose?
its thoughts like this that will keep you from being a man

by the way:
what is the .4, in your 9.4 rating?
Yeh..but sometimes my thoughts go back and forth as to how to handle the situation..perhaps i'll merely go for it with little to no plan
the only thing keeping her from a 10 are those tangibles...i mean she's great the way she is but a little more could never hurt..and honestly i don't think i'll see a 10 until i've lived more of my life
 

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jeffthechef said:
Should i talk to her often and become closer and hang out as friends first?
no. wrong. wrong. wrong. we can't tell you how to get her if there is this much inexperience floating around your head.

not to mention the fact that she's got a boyfriend? pass on this one bro. if she'd leave him for you, she'll leave you for another guy.
 

AlexParadox

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well you wrote you sent an email asking for her number,
has she replied?

and dont care if she had a boyfriend or not,
even as a "Player in the Works", practicing to communicate/talk/joke with hotties is better then backing off cuz she may have a boy friend
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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jeffthechef

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That whole argument about she'd leave you for another guy if she'd leave her bf for you thing is very double-sided.
she might be like that or she might just have been waiting for something better and had settled with that bf...which i think is the case for me because she's been dropping signals for a year..and i was too dumb and much more inexperienced to handle it...

no she hasn't...also she might not check her email till school gets nearer because i sent it to her school email cause that's the only one i knew...

alex, mind if i simply private message you once she replies or school starts..whichever comes first?
 
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