If you have feelings for a girl should you let her know or not?

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

You know when you start having feelings for a girl you've been seeing, should you let her know how you feel or keep it to yourself.

I usually don't tell a girl I do have feelings for her (just casual relationship) because I am a worried that it might turn her away or feel like she will be pressured into something more serious.

I have this good friend of mine who I have been sleepig with the past few months. I have developed feelings for her but only told her after things got broken off. She said well that kinda changes things now that you've told me. Previously she was accusing me of just being interested in just sex.

So im kinda confused...Im not sure if it is a positive or negative thing to let them know your true feelings. Feelings and emotions are an important part of relationships but Im a lil confused on this situation

 

[Kings_royalty]

You know when you start having feelings for a girl you've been seeing, should you let her know how you feel or keep it to yourself.


There's nothing wrong with letting a girl know how you feel, it's HOW you let her know that makes the difference.

If you start sending her love poems and flowers every day, you'll end up screwing it up quickly. But if you show her that you care from time to time, and only after she's done something nice for you, you'll be in the clear.

I usually don't tell a girl I do have feelings for her (just casual relationship) because I am a worried that it might turn her away or feel like she will be pressured into something more serious.


Don't ever, ever, ever 'tell' a girl you've got feelings for her, leave that for the kids in junior high school. Your body language and actions should do the talking for you.

Girls don't need for you to 'say' it, they can pick up on your vibe.

I have developed feelings for her but only told her after things got broken off.


Why did you tell her that for, were you hoping that it would bring her back? Tsk, tsk.

Previously she was accusing me of just being interested in just sex.


You should have said 'if you knew that, why didn't you say something, or stop it? You enjoyed it too, so don't go throwing it in my face like the setup was my fault'.

You have to learn how to deal with these $hit tests, don't let get your emotions get stirred up and confused. Girls know how to keep men off balance; this is a great example of how they do it.

 

[MrS]

Kings_royalty is posting some clear-cut stuff, good job.
I agree with him here.

 

[Faded Image]

Yo, King_Ro is right on point. I couldn't have said it better.

So im kinda confused...Im not sure if it is a positive or negative thing to let them know your true feelings. Feelings and emotions are an important part of relationships but Im a lil confused on this situation

You want to maintain emotional control (avoid mushy love confessions) and balance while keeping them off balance and shaking their emotions. For instance, one day you show interest and be the man of her dreams and the next you could care less whether she fell off the face of the earth. This should cause them to wonder whether you're into them or not which in hand turns you into a challenge that she must win.

P.S. the person who likes/love the least controls the relationship

This is just my OP