If you get angry with your date for acting spoilt/flaking, is it over?

[Confused]

I understand you should be unreactive to her games or low IL and just walk away if she does something like flake on you etc, but is getting angry with her ever warranted?

Especially if she is so spoilt, used to getting what she wants when she wants and doing what she wants when she wants.

I lost my HB for flaking/forgetting our date, should I have been unreactive rather than question her for 1 hour why she forgot?

She came down after 1/2 an hour and I was unlucky there was no reception when I tried to call at 9pm when we were suppose to meet. I just can't see how someone would forget something important like that if they wanted to see you. The night before she even text me to ask what I was up to, so she obviously was thinking about me.

 

[ashrivas]

That's not cool. What she did. Respond by NEXTing her and if she tries to contact you be firm with her about what she cannot do with YOU

 

[Confused]

I think it's too late for all of that now.. I wouldn't let it go and she told me yesterday 'do you think talking to me like this is going to make me like you again?'

I just couldn't stop being serious about everything but she just won't listen/talk to me. Every joke I made was not receptive to, it's sucha uphill struggle and I clearly have oneitis but the new girls I been out with just don't take away my feelings for this girl..

 

[SchoolBoy]

I responded to your other post about this.

 

[tafakna]

You can get angry, and you should angry when a girl show lack of respect; but it should be done the proper way (which is hard and counterintuitive).

1) The issue must be relevant (in your case it obviously was)
2) You have to show anger, and be brief (don't let it become a verbal ping pong). Don't let her speak. Criticize the behavior and not her personally.
3) Leave immediately after expressing your feelings.

She will get very mad at you, after all nobody likes to be scolded, but the truth shall work in your favor.

After that leave a few days for her to think about it (I assure you she will). Wait for her to contact you. When she does, let her apologize (don't ever apologize for been harsh), and accept it.

But in the case you mentioned, it's a bit late for that...