Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I stumble on word's, I hesitate, I think what to say next when I am having a conversation with a random girl.Interceptor said:
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Yes. If you want to have better success with these dolts, walk into the club with a bunch of girls. They don't even have to be drop dead gorgeous, but one or two chicks will cause some of the others to look your way and be more receptive to you. Remember, they are hit on by 100+ guys a night, so you have to even the playing field. It's kinda stupid actually, but it's how it works.Dole said:
This is true, my mind is messed up because I have hard time approaching girls other then the club. I just don't have the courage to start a conversation with some random girl. For example I go to university, a great place to meet girls, yet I have never randomly sat next to some attractive girl and carried on a conversation. Its pathetic. Yet no one in my social circle does this as well.IKO69 said:
You stumble on words because you're too in your head trying to say the "perfect' thing, which doesnt exist...Dole said:
You'll have to work on that, but, that's okay. For now you must work on small talk. When you see a girl you like in passing or whatever see if she smiles at you. If she doesn't, then you smile first and see if she smiles back, then get to it. It's simple and there really is no other way. Over time you'll become more comfortable and will find cold approaching much easier.Dole said:
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
