PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
100% true. Although all the successful narcissist personality disorder players out there prove that you can "fake it till you make it"
Yes you can fake it till you make it, but I would rather have people develop and grow through genuine and sustainable self-confidence rather than just putting on a mask or a guise every time they go out to the club.
Bokanovsky said:
That sounds awfully similar to the peptalk ugly women give to each other..."you're beautiful no matter what". Let's face it, just like many women aren't beautiful, many guys are not desirable. Engaging in self-delusion is not helpful. But recognizing your weaknesses and working to improve yourself is.
You're missing the point here.
There are a couple scenarios here.
1. You are actually desirable to women but through unsuccessful events or just bad luck, your behavior has changed through those unsuccessful outcomes. Your mindset changes and you eventually believe you are undesirable which changes the way you act and talk.
By realizing that you ARE desirable to women, everything about your behavior changes.
2. You are not the most desirable man to women. In this case, just telling yourself you aren't desirable won't change anything. You just don't have many redeeming traits or standout points about yourself. This is where the self-improvement comes in. You have to REALIZE you aren't that desirable...and strive to change it.
It's all about having an attractive energy..and aura of desire. It's not just about how good you look (although that in itself is a big factor...but that can be improved on also).
The bottom line is...if you find yourself desirable women will too.