"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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If you could be trilingual....

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This question is directed towards guys who are not yet trilingual but hope to be in the future. Besides English and your second language (usually a language that ties you to your ancenstry), what language have you chosen or may choose to try to learn? I'm looking at Spanish since I took five years of it before.. here are some other ones that may be quite useful:

Arabic
Russian
Portuguese (Brazil)

My only condition for my own choice is that it has to be the language of an area that has a bright future in terms of the markets.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Russian - huge potential market. But very (!) hard to learn.
Spanish - it´s easy as can be, the whole world speaks it
 

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Spanish, because I studied it in high school and it's a second language in Miami. Besides, there is talk about Spanish being second language in the rest of US, how cool is that. Then I want to learn Portuguese too, so I could pick up in Brazil.
 

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DJDamage said:
Don't forget Chinese.
Sure, when it comes to future markets... but asian tonal languages sound IMHO so butt ugly.. nothing for me. I´ve had enough trouble with russian to last me a lifetime %
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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The languages of the future are :
1) English
2) Mandarin
3) Spanish

If you learn those languages then the world will be your oyster.
 

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Right now I'm learning mandarin and korean. With mandarin, I can get by if I had to, after a year of studying and I just started learning korean a couple months ago. After I have a sufficient competency in the two, I'm going to learn Spanish and then Greek afterwards.
 

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i know you said trilingual, but i saw triangle and then this came into my head:

Triangle man, triangle man
Triangle man hates particle man
They have a fight, triangle wins
Triangle man
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Well I already speak/read/write fluent Russian and English, and know a bit of French. I think if I improved my French a bit and learned Mandarin, I'd be pretty much set in any part of the world.

A bit of Spanish would be nice too, but I think French is similar enough that learning spanish wouldn't be too hard.
 

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I'm native English and can manage in Spanish. I'm teaching myself Russian and Norwegian and hope to eventually master those then move on to Mandarin.
 

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I'm fully fluent in French and English already, and I know some German. I guess I'm already set on the trilingual front?

...That being said, as a "scholar," I want to learn some dead languages, like Latin and ancient Greek. Not that I would mind learning Russian and some Chinese.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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For me it would be Español and Nihongo. Spanish and Japanese. I took Spanish in Jr. High and High School. Even though I am half Cuban I know very little Spanish. I took one semester of Japanese in college but what I learned is slowly fading.
 

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Considering that French and English are the two official languages of the EU, you don't really need French if you know English. French is only spoken in France, and to degree in some countries in Africa. Basically, it's not worth the hassle of learning.

Castilian, usually known as Spanish, which is spoken in all the national territory, Equatorial Guinea, the Sahara, Central and South America ,except Brazil and the Guyanas, and parts of the United States and the Philippines, is the second language in the world in terms of numbers of speakers ,over 330 million.

Mandarin is the most widely spoken of all Chinese languages. It is used by 867 million people as a first language in a vast Beijingarea of northern and southwestern mainland China. It is also spoken in Brunei, Cambodia, Indonesia, Laos, Malaysia, Mauritius, Mongolia, Philippines, Russia, Singapore, Taiwan, Thailand, United Kingdom, USA, and Viet Nam. The total number of first-language speakers of Mandarin world-wide is estimated to be around 873 million. In addition, it is used as a second language by another 178 million people

Over 309 million people speak English as their first language, as of 2005. English today is probably the third largest language by number of native speakers, after Mandarin Chinese and Spanish. However, when combining native and non-native speakers it is probably the most commonly spoken language in the world, though possibly second to a combination of the Chinese Languages, depending on whether or not distinctions in the latter are classified as "languages" or "dialects." Estimates that include second language speakers vary greatly from 470 million to over a billion depending on how literacy or mastery is defined. There are some who claim that non-native speakers now outnumber native speakers by a ratio of 3 to 1.

To sum it all up :

The Summer Institute for Linguistics (SIL) Ethnologue Survey (1999) lists the following as the top languages by population:
(number of native speakers in parentheses)

1. Chinese* (937,132,000)
2. Spanish (332,000,000)
3. English (322,000,000)
4. Bengali (189,000,000)
5. Hindi/Urdu (182,000,000)
6. Arabic* (174,950,000)
7. Portuguese (170,000,000)
8. Russian (170,000,000)
9. Japanese (125,000,000)
10. German (98,000,000)
11. French* (79,572,000)


Meaning that if you know Mandarin, Spanish and English you can go basically anywhere in the world and not have problems with the language. You only need those 3 languages, all other languages are sh!t.
 

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I realized that the numbers don't match. I've pulled them from different sources, but you get the drift.
 

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Well I already speak fluent portuguese,english and spanish.Also got some basic-medium french talking and learning german at the moment.I'd like to learn latin,greek,russian and mandarin but I dont think ill live long enough to be fluent in all of them :down:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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