"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Belmar2009

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I am close to 6'0 and in good physical shape at 185 lbs with little fat.

When I go out, I realize my height is a huge advantage.


I mean, my facial aesthetics probably lean more towards the average. There are alot of guys that are just as handsome facially, but I always have a couple to a few inches on most of these guys.

6'0 is definitely tall in NJ, the average here seems to be around 5'8-5'9".

I was out last night and was getting eyed up in decent amounts.

I even got stopped and hit on by a 22 year old hottie. (I am 22).

I am convinced if I was not above average in height, I would be alot more invisible.

However, the height advantage will only work if you are IN SHAPE!

A Tall fat ass, is still fat.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Weezy

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Being taller, in shape and good looking makes everything way easier. Especially for 1 night stands..

But that will just get you into the door, without confidence, challenge and self control, you will still end up getting punked in the long run.
 

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I'm 6'2.

And you know something, that isn't that awesome in California. Most of the super attractive guys you see are over 6'6. Think "top 1% of all males" where I live. There is a club I used to frequent with lots of blonde hotties everywhere, but the catch is that you had to be at least 6' to get in. (well, not really. You could still get into the place, but at least 90% of everyone was taller than 6', so you would look awkward)

And even in that place, the guys who thought that they were super awesome suddenly became average. Height is only one piece of the puzzle and it guarantees nothing.
 

CarlitosWay

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I'm a lil over 5"11 ...but I tell chics I'm 6 fooot ha:) I float around 170 with a 28 inch waist:) I want to get upto at least 190-200 though.

Same applies in bodybuilding. . Have two bodybuilders who are both thick as hell/aesthetic. The taller one will usually win in the end.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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(JJ)

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Duffdog said:
I'm 6'2.

And you know something, that isn't that awesome in California. Most of the super attractive guys you see are over 6'6. Think "top 1% of all males" where I live. There is a club I used to frequent with lots of blonde hotties everywhere, but the catch is that you had to be at least 6' to get in. (well, not really. You could still get into the place, but at least 90% of everyone was taller than 6', so you would look awkward)

And even in that place, the guys who thought that they were super awesome suddenly became average. Height is only one piece of the puzzle and it guarantees nothing.
i think i would move. ha

i'm 6'3", in texas, in my experience, that's pretty far above average. it definitely helps in a couple ways. one girl i'm currently working on making into a plate loves to tell me how she tells her friends that i'm so tall. also, i just have a general feeling of "yea, i could kick all these guys asses" programmed into me because i'm tall and i work out. realistically, i cant fight at all. but for some reason it's deep seated in my brain that being taller sets me ahead of everyone else.

although the really super jacked guys probably feel that way too, regardless of if they're 5'0 or 7'0.
 

JCballin88

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At 5'11" I'm feel right in the middle of the height spectrum among my friends. A lot of them have me by a few inches, but I'm also taller than the same amount by a few inches.

I try to make up for having average height by hitting the gym hard. Last 16 months I've been able to put on a hearty 20-25 pounds of muscle, and people have noticed. So I guess that's a plus.
 

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(JJ) said:
i think i would move. ha

i'm 6'3", in texas, in my experience, that's pretty far above average. it definitely helps in a couple ways. one girl i'm currently working on making into a plate loves to tell me how she tells her friends that i'm so tall. also, i just have a general feeling of "yea, i could kick all these guys asses" programmed into me because i'm tall and i work out. realistically, i cant fight at all. but for some reason it's deep seated in my brain that being taller sets me ahead of everyone else.

although the really super jacked guys probably feel that way too, regardless of if they're 5'0 or 7'0.

Haha, I sort of feel the same way.
 

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Definitely a huge advantage not only for attraction but also because it gives you more confidence. I'm 6'5" and I rarely see people taller than me, even when I go out here in NYC. Shorter men shouldn't worry about it though, just be the man. Worst thing a short guy can do is talk about his height. Most of us have a downfall, (Im going bald) we just need to try not to let those things get in our head.

Definitely understand the statement about fighting, but you gotta remember the saying "the bigger they are, the harder they fall." Usually being tall is enough of a deterrent that if you have half a brain you won't need to fight anyways.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'm probably about 5'9 and let me say...I had never even considered that being "short" (which I'm not really) gave you a disadvantage in any way before I read people whining about it here. Seriously.

Those people here who say if you're not above 5'10 etc you're ****ed...are chatting absolute balls.
 

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shaunuk said:
I'm probably about 5'9 and let me say...I had never even considered that being "short" (which I'm not really) gave you a disadvantage in any way before I read people whining about it here. Seriously.

Those people here who say if you're not above 5'10 etc you're ****ed...are chatting absolute balls.
Height is not the disadvantage, the real disadvantage is their personality, but thats a tougher pill to swallow.
 

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Another tall Texan here..6'3" barefoot. Seems like everyone wants to be tall, but in reality, it's a huge pain in the azz. IF I could do it over, it would be 6 foot even. But the women DO appreciate a tall guy and if you got some meat on you, it definitely keeps you out of trouble. Cuz with all those size-queens all over you, you gonna get some trouble! lol Word!
 

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I'm 6'2.

In Georgia, that really doesn't mean anything. Most girls out here are after gay guys and money.
 
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