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Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

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If you are good looking, do you feel that some guys are threatened by it?

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So,u think there are guys you work with for example feel like you are a threat to them beacuse you are better looking than them and have more "GAME" (way you interact with women). It's like, you don't feel their vibe.. When it comes to talking to them you always run into awkward conversations with them

I have other guy coworkers (who are good looking to) and we feel each other's vibe and we talk about women, sports and you feel their vibe. Never any awkward conversations.

I am good when it comes to talking people.. but there are just THOSE few who, you just can't vibe with

Anyone else ?
 

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Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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Yea I know what you are saying. I am a good looking guy and typically find myself getting along better with good looking guys. Ive had girls tell me "you have a lot of good looking friends." When I deal with guys who I think are not at my level look wise then we typically but heads.
 

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Guys don't act threatened of me. However they will give me **** and I remember I was ****blocked so badly a year ago when I was about to bang this girl on the beach and I've never forgotten about it. We walked down far, then guys came lookin' for me. Tough bangin' the hottest piece of ass at a beach party.
 

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verysuave said:
So,u think there are guys you work with for example feel like you are a threat to them beacuse you are better looking than them and have more "GAME" (way you interact with women). It's like, you don't feel their vibe.. When it comes to talking to them you always run into awkward conversations with them

I have other guy coworkers (who are good looking to) and we feel each other's vibe and we talk about women, sports and you feel their vibe. Never any awkward conversations.

I am good when it comes to talking people.. but there are just THOSE few who, you just can't vibe with

Anyone else ?
Typically these men are called losers or AFCs. And horrible AFCs at that. These men have little personality, no chance at women, and they don't DO anything to improve their circumstances.

Instead, they will sit on the sidelines for YEARS and despise those who are picking up all the ladies. Yes, I define these sad saps as losers.

The AFC in training on the other hand has all the similar characteristics, but he is working on improving his circumstances. He's open to others and does not shun people who have more wisdom than he does. He doesn't let his ignorance get in the way of him learning more. This is the kind of person everyone should strive to be, whether AFC or not.

the rant was needed, as i've run into WAY too many of these sad individuals lately. they give me a look of awkwardness and i give them the look of death.
 

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WC2 said:
Typically these men are called losers or AFCs. And horrible AFCs at that. These men have little personality, no chance at women, and they don't DO anything to improve their circumstances.

Instead, they will sit on the sidelines for YEARS and despise those who are picking up all the ladies. Yes, I define these sad saps as losers.

The AFC in training on the other hand has all the similar characteristics, but he is working on improving his circumstances. He's open to others and does not shun people who have more wisdom than he does. He doesn't let his ignorance get in the way of him learning more. This is the kind of person everyone should strive to be, whether AFC or not.

the rant was needed, as i've run into WAY too many of these sad individuals lately. they give me a look of awkwardness and i give them the look of death.
these guys who I can't vibe with have had kids already. But they are single dads in their mid/late 20s.. prolly loosers. They know i drive a nicer car than what theyre driving and know i do well with the ladies at work in terms of how i interact with them... (didnt mean to sound like a d1ck) Some of them tried to get me to hang out with them.. but it felt like i would just have awkward conversations with them if i stuck around. So i end up not hanging out
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Yes this is very true. People tend to envy those they percieve as superior in some way. I happen to be good looking and in pretty good shape, 6'1 225. Shoot even some girls get jealous and act like b!tches for no apparent reason.
 

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i guess i can say im good looking. But, I have personality and respect everyone. Even the nerds, ugly dudes, good looking peepz, i have respect for. Even with the dorks i'm cool with and can have great convo with them. But there are just those "GUYS" who you just can't vibe with. U know what i'm saying? You try to vibe with them but just can't. And no im not conceited. I use "I" less than anyone else i know.
 

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verysuave said:
i guess i can say im good looking. But, I have personality and respect everyone. Even the nerds, ugly dudes, good looking peepz, i have respect for. Even with the dorks i'm cool with and can have great convo with them. But there are just those "GUYS" who you just can't vibe with. U know what i'm saying? You try to vibe with them but just can't. And no im not conceited. I use "I" less than anyone else i know.
I feel the same way as this guy, I treat everyone the same and have good convo with everyone. Some guys are just d!cks and thats not your problem, its theirs.
 

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Its probably your arrogance. I would consider myself good-looking but treat all people with respect. A lot of the good looking guys I met in America, particularly the big, frat-boy looking ones would not talk to certain ppl based on their appearance.

Pathetic, quite frankly.
 

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NSUballer said:
Yes this is very true. People tend to envy those they percieve as superior in some way. I happen to be good looking and in pretty good shape, 6'1 225. Shoot even some girls get jealous and act like b!tches for no apparent reason.
Classic example of what I was on about above. You can tell the arrogance of this man even over the medium of the internet. Here's a tip mate...you'll come off worse in the end, huge bicep muscles or not. :rolleyes:

Real men treat all people with respect IMO. And this is NOT coming from a position of jealousy or anything like that before you jump to that conclusion. Girls round here, and myself would consider 225lb far too big and 'try-hard' anyway....I just genuinely think that arrogant guys like you will come off worse in the end and also won't get laid with high self esteem women who don't fall for your superficiality.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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verysuave said:
(didnt mean to sound like a d1ck) Some of them tried to get me to hang out with them.. but it felt like i would just have awkward conversations with them if i stuck around. So i end up not hanging out
It sounds to me like you have the problem. They offered to hang out with you so they can't dislike you that much.

You were afraid to hang out with them because of awkward conversation? No wonder it's awkward with your attitude.

What others think should not effect you and guys may be envious of you're success with the ladies but if you were nice to them I don't think they'd hold a personal grudge. You might be the one making the conversation awkward.
 

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yeah, im always nice to them. I always TREAT them nice, give em kino and talk talk to them about them. It's never about me. always them.

Couple guys at work, u tease em (give em a hard time) and don't make a comeback. Theres just no chemistry or whatever.

One guy goes,

Guy: so, what do you do during the daytime? You do some hustling man huh?
Me: Me? nah dude, i just lock myself up in my room and play video games. I wish i had your lifestyle
Guy: hahahahah. yeah, u hustle
 

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Rob a Dorito factory and eat, eat, eat until you get so fat that you become the only person that can clap with their a$$ cheeks at a German sausage fest.

You´ll be the most disgusting, unattractive human being on the planet.

Problem solved. Now you can relate with the more unattractive crowd.
 

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Thats really superficial talk.
There are guys that I don't quite vibe with, but I don't think it has anything to do with my looks. Its just that I'm probably not the type of guy they like to hang out with. Be it preconceived reasons, or just bad first impressions.
Good looking people are actually perceived as trust wrthy, so if anything being good looking would actually help you vibe with them.
 

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Men and women can be resentful of you if you happen to be attractive. And contrary to myth just because you're attractive does not mean that you have a lot of friends. Guys may worry that you'll come onto their girlfriends or wives, and women may think that you'll cheat on them. And people can be cruel, some people may go so far as to spread rumors about you because they resent what you stand for. Your self worth has to come from within. And it is natural to be affected by what others think about is-humans are social organisms. And it does hurt when some people resent it when you're laughing and talking to a HB 8+ and then they wait until you leave to sneak in a lie to c*ckblock you. :(

The thing to remember is that I am me, I'm fortunate to be alive and I have a responsibility to live for me. Really this applies to anyone regardless of that they look like or their circumstances, we have to live for ourselves. Those who want to see us fail do it because of their own failures and shortcomings, we musn't give them victory. Still, some days are better than others; ultimately though, our fitness pays off. If you happen to be smart and attractive-and you do NOT settle for less than you are worth- then when you find the HB that is right for you, just think about what the kids of such a union will be like. :up: :cheer:
 
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ive been told im hot and sexy by girls. 6'1, 210lbs V shape muscle type body, Black hair, green eyes, tanned skin and i dress nice. I have to say though that when i go out looking good. Women seem to give me less attention and maybe they think im an A-Hole for no reason, i get snobbed for NO reason and sometimes im ignored. it sucks and what makes it worse somtimes, if im getting on a bus, train or walkin into a store, guys will look at me with some kind of stare that has a negative vibe. Its even worse when a guy is with his G/F, They give me a bad look. I think im a cool guy and really down to earth but reguardless of what anyone says, looks play a roll in how you are treated by some people.
 
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