"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
if you are getting Low Interest or have been LJBF'ed, this is for you
- Thread starter backbreaker
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
The key is deciding what YOU want from the relationship, not what you think is the best "path" to win her over. If you can't get what you want out of the relationship, leave.
About the sh$t I heard-BAR NONE-
"Dont make someone a priority when you're only an option to them."---Some chick said that.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
Secondly, thanks for telling me, and the other thousands of people who are registered here for the millionth time the same "LJBF theory"
If that were true, you wouldn't have typed in "how to get girls" on Google and came to this website
What I am getting at in this... yes, in THEORY you are 100% correct, but life isn't about THEORIES.. This was a REAL LIFE expericne, that took place WELL before I started going on the INternet on a daily basis, let alone coming here.
If you would have read my post instead of giving me the generic line, you would know that I did tell her bye.... TWICE, and ment it both times... I didn't talk to her from the time I was 19 until 2 months before I was 21, right around 2 years, then from March of this year until I think July of this year, because not only did I know I wanted her, I knew she was playing games and was sending mixed signals.
When I was 19 I told her that if me and her weren't dating, or at least talking, we had no reason to talk to each other, and I hung up the phone and didn't talk to her for 2 years... the only reason I ended up talking to her is because she sent me a letter in the mail asking me to call her.,. But you would have known all of that by reading the post
Labayu
Banned
Out of intrest what where the 70 odd goals?
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
I'll actually pull out the list if you want
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Labayu
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Michele l'Arcangelo
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I've only been on this site since Aug.2005. And, this is probably one of the best posts because it actually has examples, and REAL situations.
You are 22 -- It says, and I'm 16, and no offense, but reading your post made me realize what not to do -- in a way, but also showed me what to do right (if that's what your intent was). <<< that was one long ass sentense.
I don't know if that even made sense, but I'm glad I took time to read your post + replies.
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Well dude, you posted about self-improvment not about LJBF.
Even though i am 15 i don't give a chick with low intrest a chance with me.
If there is a chick that i like and she is intrested i go for the phone and date, and if she gives me low-intrest then i am done with her.
LJBF=Low intrest, and there is no suprise that after you improved yourself the chicks saw you in another light.
But still, nice post.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
okay, even now I remember that like it was yesterday. At the first time, i hadn' tseen either one of the girls (kim or cindy) in 6 months, and a year for cindy. Cindy was all over me.. I know when she's been flirty.. I dated her for 6 months. she was laying it on thick. But cindy isn't the my oneitis.. kim was. Kim is a little more reserved. she literarly thinks every guy on earth wants to fvck her (and for the most part she isn't far off) and has no problem being reserved. Even with that said.. i knew Kim enough to know she was checking me out, but wasn't going to say anything in front of cindy.
Kim and I were pretty good friends, so we always talked on the phone (in the past). the next day, i started getting phone calls from her again. unlike the past however, I didn't have time. This went on for about a week. The next Saturday she took her mom's car and she asked me would I take her out. So she gets dressed up, comes over my house... and I just kissed her. because I wanted to and because she was looking hot as hell. I could care less what her reaction was. ovboiusly it was a good one as she couldn't get her clothes off fast enough.
I posted pics of them in the anything else forum. Kim is the Columbian girl and Cindy is the white one. I ran into Cindy 5 months ago.. she looks a lot better. actually she's pretty damn cute. Kim is well.. kim.
however I wouldn't date either one of them now. I'm on to bigger and better (and hotter) things.
pimpfromdayone said:
In his defense, I enjoyed the stories. The best way for me to understand things is by experience. Reading "facts" or "tips" is nifty, but a real-world personal story is by far leaps and bounds better at getting the message across. Besides, no one forced you to read it.
Backbreaker, ignore whatever some of the complainers are talking about, this was a solid post. Can't thank you enough.
RAFCbearfilm
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
one thing you will never accuse me of is not having good taste
she's easy on the eyes. I'm starting to see more of her mom in her, which isn' t necessary a bad thing, her mom is an attractive 50 year old.. but heh. It's really just not that big of a deal before. Traveling and moving out of that town was the best thing I ever did. bAck there, she IS IT. out here, she's a fish in a huge pond
a girl that allows this to happen is has not put in the friendszone more or less your on deck and she's waiting for you to do something that just blows her away, or perhaps she's attempting to sheild you away because of the fact that your close to her. or a a list of other things. none of them bad just annoying and the average DJ should keep her on deck and work up other options so that oneitis doesn't set it.
with this also comes the thin line between AW and A girl that's just scared to commit to something long term knowing how it would be between the two of you. or maybe she doesn't want to lose a close friend..
Good people are hard to find and in my eyes if you find those people keep them around you. Because in the end its better for your state of mind knowing you have people to talk to and that care for you on more than one level.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
this is where guys get it wrong. See, this is what we want to think. However in all reality, she didn't think I was a great guy that she wanted to keep around.. she always thought I was cute, I knew that. but I didn't "do it" for her for whatever the reason may be, however becuase of my AFCness I was useful and good to keep around. then one day I DID do it for her. it's not like she was waiting for me to come along or anything.. it just happened.
if you meet a 200 pound girl and you keep talking to her becuase she's cool, you aren't saying to yourself" i wish she would drop 80 pounds" or waiting for her to drop 80 pounds....if it happens you aren't expecting it and you are like 'whoa... she's kinda..hot"
like I said in the post, the person she knew me as and the person I had become were two totally different people. not a guy that finally lost weight. i was skinny as hell when I met her. not a guy who had money now.. I had money before she saw me again and she wouldn't give me hte time of day. not a guy that learned a couple of new C&F tactics, not any of that. I literarly wasn't the same person. I had developed interst, hobbies, a passion for something other than her ass on my bed, and most importantly of all, I didn't care if she liked me or not.
She wasn't good in any way. she's nice I guess and easy to talk to. but the only, the sole reason I kept her around was because I wanted to fvck her in the baddest way. That's telling the truth. Not beecause she was this 'great friend"... now we became friends over time.. you tend to do that when you know someone for 7 years, but looking back on it, she didn't offer anything that anyone else didn't. She was hot. And regardless of how friendly I got, how long we went with what her and I called.. "that" comming up.. the fact that I did like her.. she knew. She would admit she knew. When she wuld get drunk she would tease me and show me what I "wasn't" getting. yet I put up with it like an AFC fool.
what doesn't kill you makes you stronger
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.