If you are decent guy and cant get a girl it could be because of ...

[evan12]

that you have Autism or other anti social issues, many people who are not good in getting women and think they are decent guys yet unable to connect to any woman and socialize, seem to have some psychological problem that can be the cause
such as,
Autism
Depression
Asperger
Antisocial personality disorder

don't say no before you do more research , these syndromes have a wide spectrum , most of the time not noticeable

take this test and if you score more than 32 , then take what I said more seriously and do some research to make sure you are not or if you are in then contact a doctor to help you in the treatment .
http://www.wired.com/wired/archive/9.12/aqtest.html
good luck

 

[thatfeel]

autism and other "personality disorders" are so general that they could be applied to anyone who simply isn't experienced enough in social dynamics that all of a sudden they're diseased with a condition because their inexperience lines up with "symptoms" associated with these disorders. asperger's is an especially overwhelming one that is way way WAY over diagnosed. being inexperienced does not equate to all of a sudden having some sort of predefined disorder with a bunch of generic(and most often shared as well) symptoms used to make people feel like their psychiatric visit deductibles were worth it. i mean think about what you yourself just said: "these syndromes have a wide spectrum, most of the time not noticeable"

 

[evan12]

autism and other "personality disorders" are so general that they could be applied to anyone who simply isn't experienced enough in social dynamics that all of a sudden they're diseased with a condition because their inexperience lines up with "symptoms" associated with these disorders. asperger's is an especially overwhelming one that is way way WAY over diagnosed. being inexperienced does not equate to all of a sudden having some sort of pedefined disorder with a bunch of generic(and most often shared as well) symptoms used to make people feel like their psychiatric visit deductibles were worth it. i mean think about what you yourself just said: "these syndromes have a wide spectrum, most of the time not noticeable"

Exactly , it is hard to find a fine line , that is why a lot of times get ignored . Depression for example can be treated so why waiting. Many of people ignore their depression symptoms and continue living depressed

 

[thatfeel]

I think you missed my point, sir.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

yes these could be factors, but at the same time, the guys shouldn't be playing the victim and using these as an excuse, although I have been resentful at times, sometimes my mind gets in a better mood when I see some positive inspiration, I remember speaking to BadBoy Lifestyle, when I contacted them, they told me they know guys in wheelchairs that are able to pull, attract good-looking women

 

[Jair213]

I think I suffer from an anti social.disorder along with shyness

Just a week ago I was going in the gym.

When I was going in one of the front desk girls told the other
Girl that was with her ''he is cute'' and I know it was me
Because I was the only dude going in, she said it for me to hear to
Show her interest in me..After this... This made me feel terrified and really shy
Everytime I saw her. I know this sounds dumb. And watt have I done about this? Nothing.
Pathetic.. ugh

 

[thatfeel]

I think I suffer from an anti social.disorder along with shyness

Just a week ago I was going in the gym.

When I was going in one of the front desk girls told the other
Girl that was with her ''he is cute'' and I know it was me
Because I was the only dude going in, she said it for me to hear to
Show her interest in me..After this... This made me feel terrified and really shy
Everytime I saw her. I know this sounds dumb. And watt have I done about this? Nothing.
Pathetic.. ugh

You do not have a disorder. Do not waste your time reading about disorders and this and that online. You are merely inexperienced.

 

[evan12]

I think you missed my point, sir.

I understand that you are saying not every one have some of these syndromes have really psychological problems , and I agree , but many of guys really have a problem , in Canada 10% of kids have some kind of autism , that mean 10% of Canadian men will have problem socializing and getting girls , usually unsocial men have problem getting women .
that is why I did this post, It would be good news for some guys who dont know what is wrong with them, so they can find a treatment.

 

[954luigi]

i scored 31

 

[954luigi]

Agree with this by like 20%.

Decent guys who struggle with girls do tend to suffer in the social skills department. But they're called social skills for a reason.

Practice makes perfect.

yo dont need social skilsl to get a girl, you dont even need it to have friends. maybe those type of people tend to be lonely because they refuse to give it a shot or be them selves. i consider myself to be a mild introvert, i truly enjoy being alone but can have friends and girls and have fun. you should always be who you are and if people dont accept you than its their lost, people should accept you for who you are.

 

[user name]

i scored 31

then you are in good company. 31 is low compared to some other posters...

 

[Jair213]

I got 16.

 

[954luigi]

Yes. You do. You know that ability to have..well...a conversation? Or interact with people in general. That's what social skills are...

i have to disagree.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

Yes. You do. You know that ability to have..well...a conversation? Or interact with people in general. That's what social skills are...

agreed, they are far more important for guys to have than for girls to have

 

[Atom Smasher]

I think I suffer from an anti social.disorder along with shyness

Just a week ago I was going in the gym.

When I was going in one of the front desk girls told the other
Girl that was with her ''he is cute'' and I know it was me
Because I was the only dude going in, she said it for me to hear to
Show her interest in me..After this... This made me feel terrified and really shy
Everytime I saw her. I know this sounds dumb. And watt have I done about this? Nothing.
Pathetic.. ugh

The cure for you is intentionally making small talk everywhere you go, both men and women. You will gradually become much more comfortable socializing.

That's how I did it.

 

[MikeOck]

FYI: Antisocial Personality Disorder is simply the new, politically correct term for Sociopaths and Psychopaths; People who have no conscience. Shyness is not Antisocial Personality Disorder. In fact, people with this personality disorder tend to be quite outgoing with unjustifiably high self esteem.

 

[Mike32ct]

I generally agree with the OP. Social skills are a must. Because of their upbringing and/or psychological issues, some guys don't develop these skills until much later on or sometimes never.

 

[zekko]

The cure for you is intentionally making small talk everywhere you go, both men and women. You will gradually become much more comfortable socializing.

That's how I did it.

Good advice, Smasher. The other thing I used to do (when I was trying to learn) was to take every opportunity I could to socialize. Someone is throwing a party? Try to get invited to it. Someone taking a trip to the casino? See if you can tag along. This way, not only do you get to practice socializing, you also find yourself becoming part of social groups as well.

 

[yyc12]

FYI: Antisocial Personality Disorder is simply the new, politically correct term for Sociopaths and Psychopaths; People who have no conscience. Shyness is not Antisocial Personality Disorder. In fact, people with this personality disorder tend to be quite outgoing with unjustifiably high self esteem.

^^ glad somebody finally mentioned this.

 

[Jair213]

The cure for you is intentionally making small talk everywhere you go, both men and women. You will gradually become much more comfortable socializing.

That's how I did it.

Thanks bro. Gonna start doing that.