if you act arrogant and turn them off, should you just move on rather than back down

[pete101]

if you over do the c+f thing in an online msg should you just move on rather than back down and do somethign silly like apologize?

i sometimes take the c+f thing way too far and come across as arrogant which turns women off.. for instance i sent this msg today:

'ahh wouldnt you like to know.. (she asked me what i was doing on my day off)
i have a few things planned, people to see, things to do..possibly even quickly meet a certain attractive female from POF haha. i want to make the most of my day off cos i dont usually get time.

lets meet up this afternoon/evening hows 6pm?

i wouldnt want you to miss out on seeing me and have some other stylish pretty girl take your place. haha. lets just meet up for an hour or so i dont know if i'll like u when i meet you but im sure you're up to the challenge of convincing me haha. i'm kidding. i'm sure i'll find you quite alluring.'

i been thinking about this recently, and i feel if i either apologize/explain or do anything other than nothing i'll appear weak.

she's not interest now i've turned her off with my arrogance.. but in future if u do something like this, what is the best course of action?

should you bother to recontact them? i feel like it's a weak male to go back on what you've said, however at the same time you have done nothing to dispell your perception. do u literally have to write them off?

 

[Iceberg]

if you over do the c+f thing in an online msg should you just move on rather than back down and do somethign silly like apologize?

i sometimes take the c+f thing way too far and come across as arrogant which turns women off.. for instance i sent this msg today:

'ahh wouldnt you like to know.. (she asked me what i was doing on my day off)
i have a few things planned, people to see, things to do..possibly even quickly meet a certain attractive female from POF haha. i want to make the most of my day off cos i dont usually get time.

lets meet up this afternoon/evening hows 6pm?

i wouldnt want you to miss out on seeing me and have some other stylish pretty girl take your place. haha. lets just meet up for an hour or so i dont know if i'll like u when i meet you but im sure you're up to the challenge of convincing me haha. i'm kidding. i'm sure i'll find you quite alluring.'

I think you're putting way too much weight on this text. I saw your other thread on this.

You're talking about ONE girl on POF. So, before you consider re-calibrating your whole approach to women, maybe you should consider that she just didn't like you. C+F or no C+F, maybe she just didn't like you. This is one of many rejections you will face in life. No point in studying it like it's Calculus.

i been thinking about this recently, and i feel if i either apologize/explain or do anything other than nothing i'll appear weak.

she's not interest now i've turned her off with my arrogance.. but in future if u do something like this, what is the best course of action?

should you bother to recontact them? i feel like it's a weak male to go back on what you've said, however at the same time you have done nothing to dispell your perception. do u literally have to write them off?

Apologizing for making a joke? No, you shouldn't.

Re-contact them? Why bother? She doesn't like you. Other than the fact that she gave you her cell number, what indication do you have that she REALLY wants to date you? She hasn't even taken the time to meet you yet.

In the future, you should stop trying so hard. That's my advice for the future. And also, stop worrying about one girl so much. Especially a girl you haven't even met.

 

[DJLondoner]

What type of computer do you have? Desktop or laptop?

 

[joverby]

Iceberg is spot on with the over analyzing over one girl you never met statement.

But I would like to add you are trying WAAAAY too hard. Holy sh1t. That mini-novel reeks of try-harding. Anyone (yes, including females) can see right through that.

Nothing wrong with being funny / a little ****y but it's painfully obvious you were try-harding. Just try to be more natural and follow the advice given by iceberg.

 

[pete101]

I think you're putting way too much weight on this text. I saw your other thread on this.

You're talking about ONE girl on POF. So, before you consider re-calibrating your whole approach to women, maybe you should consider that she just didn't like you. C+F or no C+F, maybe she just didn't like you. This is one of many rejections you will face in life. No point in studying it like it's Calculus.




Apologizing for making a joke? No, you shouldn't.

Re-contact them? Why bother? She doesn't like you. Other than the fact that she gave you her cell number, what indication do you have that she REALLY wants to date you? She hasn't even taken the time to meet you yet.

In the future, you should stop trying so hard. That's my advice for the future. And also, stop worrying about one girl so much. Especially a girl you haven't even met.

i hear what you're saying.. i try too hard. definitely. i just dont realise it as i feel at that point i go into auto pilot and seem to reel off every c+f joke i can make when 1 will do. less is more.

it was more a question of what to do in future? in regards to sending comments like this. i basically feel like i'm following a manual of 'how to' write the perfect message as i dont know what to say as a natural.

but anyway i've taken on board what you've said. and the answer is EVEN if i go over the top like this, dont bother recontacting the girl cos that'll appear weak. even if she doesn't want me she'll respect me for taking it like a man and standing by what i say.

 

[Iceberg]

but anyway i've taken on board what you've said. and the answer is EVEN if i go over the top like this, dont bother recontacting the girl cos that'll appear weak. even if she doesn't want me she'll respect me for taking it like a man and standing by what i say.

If we're talking about this topic in general...and not related to the specific POF girl....

If I were in the situation of saying something mildly stupid, I'd just act like it didn't happen. I'd continue contacting her, while making an effort to avoid saying dumb things, and being more natural.

I only apologize on the rare occasion that I'm COMPLETELY in the wrong. In a situation like yours, you were just trying to be funny. If a girl can't look past that, then she's not the kind of girl you want to spend time with anyway.