If this is a test, what do I say?

[stoner1129]

Well I was talkin to this one chick last night, and I told her something and she was kinda slow to respond to it, so I asked her what she was thinking about. She told me "Oh nothing just how much I love you" so I said "I love you too". I didn't really know what to say. So we talk for a little while longer and she get's really quite, so I ask if something is wrong and she says no just that she's thinking about how much she loves me again. We aren't going out so idk if she's testing me or what's happening, and also she told that she keeps wanting to call me babe but she thinks it's weird because we aren't going out. So if this is all a test can someone tell me what to do, and if i'm doing something wrong with like me asking her something or what I said can someone tell me? thanks

 

[Shyyhs]

Haven't you seen the movie "Waiting".

What are you thinking?
and
What's wrong?

Are huge insecurity questions.

 

[stoner1129]

Yeah but I don't say "what are you thinking" like i'm scared or something, I try to say it like kinda sexy I guess, just to see where the convo goes from there, but anyways is it a test what she's doing or am I over analyzing?

 

[DonGorgon]

You should have said "I think i could love you" very vague and confusing women love that...

 

[00Kevin]

You should have said "I think i could love you" very vague and confusing women love that...

this is exactly what I do and it works. It is very truthfull too. Love is a choice not a feeling.

 

[stoner1129]

alright, but was that a test though?

 

[stoner1129]

alright, but was that a test though?

 

[619joe]

Well at the start of your convo I would have said it was a test.

But towards the end it seems like she really wants you.

Stop thinking its a damn test and go out with this girl if she likes you and you like her.This is what I find most irritating with some guys who study this stuff who just OVER-ANALYZE what is happening in their life.

Go with the flow

 

[WC2]

What's your status with this girl? How long have you been seeing her? What exactly has gone down between you two? These are questions that need to be answered.

If you have done little with this girl and she's saying this, she probably doesn't mean it. There is your test. She's looking for self-affirmation and you possibly failed the test. She love you, you love her, there's nothing more for her to chase.

On the other hand, if you've been serious with this girl for awhile then she could very well mean it (although i've never had a woman tell me she loves me like that).

I don't know, it all sounds real fishy to me. Most the women who have told me they loved me didn't go about it in such a casual way.

 

[dopexile]

You should have said "Yeah, I love myself too" and just been ****y\funny about it and leave things ambiguious

 

[stoner1129]

Well it's confusing, because we went out awhile ago and then broke up, we started talking not to long ago and we both kinda want to go out with eachother again, just she says she's not ready for a relationship right now and then she starts telling me all of that, so yeah idk.

 

[Faded Image]

I can already see it, you're going to over analyzing the situation right out of a piece of azz.

 

[Jitterbug]

Tell her to show her love for you and proceed to unzip your pants.

 

[Being_the_Don]

Well I was talkin to this one chick last night, and I told her something and she was kinda slow to respond to it, so I asked her what she was thinking about. She told me "Oh nothing just how much I love you" so I said "I love you too". I didn't really know what to say. So we talk for a little while longer and she get's really quite, so I ask if something is wrong and she says no just that she's thinking about how much she loves me again. We aren't going out so idk if she's testing me or what's happening, and also she told that she keeps wanting to call me babe but she thinks it's weird because we aren't going out. So if this is all a test can someone tell me what to do, and if i'm doing something wrong with like me asking her something or what I said can someone tell me? thanks

You say that you went out with this her a while ago. How long have the two of you known each other for her to say those things to you? How long has it been since you two broke up?

 

[stoner1129]

Well we went out for about a month and a half, and it's been a little over a month since we broke up.

 

[stoner1129]

Ok so we were talking yesterday, and she was getting her prom dress(she's going to prom at her school with some guy, they aren't going out) and she said something about how she was going to take pictures with him in it on prom, and so I guess I didn't sound the happiest so she wanted to know what was up with it. So I think I messed up by telling her that it was weird to me that she was going with some other guy and so she wanted to know why but had to go.
So she gets on her myspace later and posts a bulletin about it saying how she's his prom date and underling the word date and then underlining his name. So yeah i'm pretty sure she's just been fvcking with my head or something, so basically what would you guys do or what do you guys think I should do?

 

[Mr. Me]

She's being a high school age girl who flits around. You've gotten yourself too emotionally attached. Detach. Move on.

so I asked her what she was thinking about. She told me "Oh nothing just how much I love you" so I said "I love you too". I didn't really know what to say.

See how they learn at a so very young age how to not tell you what they're really thinking and instead feed your ego?

NEVER ask a woman what's she's thinking. You're hardly ever going to get an honest answer anyway - UNLESS she wants to give you as piece of her mind. And in that case, you don't want to ask either.

It also shows you're too willing to please them by asking. You don't want to run your life according to what women are thinking.

You need to come up with something else to say besides knee jerk responses. Develop a catch-all phrase that works under most, if not all situations.

I like tossing out "Hey, that's cute!".

 

[xectxny19x]

definitely detach & move on. spin other plates.

 

[stoner1129]

She's so stupid, she had a friend spend the night at her house on Thursday, and out of no where while we're talking she says that her friend thinks we should go back out, so I think I said "Hmm well we'll have to see" not trying to sound attached or whatever. She got kinda worried after that and we didn't talk about it anymore.

 

[Interceptor]

You need to live your own life by what YOU Want , not what she is thinking.


If you DO Love her, then yes, be concerend with what she is thinking.
But dont be insecure.

Be in LOVE, but NEVER "FALL" in Love.

You are a young man, still learning about yourself and females.

The most important thing to learnis to NOT GUIDE YOURSELF by HER ACTIONS.

You have to think of yourself as 'the Rock'. While she is the 'water' that flows around you.
^^
^ ^ ^
HER^ ^ ^
You_______________________________



Meaning, you ARE STABLE. And she FLOWS around YOUR STABILITY.

You need to maintain you steady COURSE in Life.


You CANNOT be living according to HER whims and Moods.