"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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If the woman pays for the dinner

Doppy

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Lets see a woman pays for the dinner and doesn't allow you to do anything about it. What can the man do that same night to make it up for the woman?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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S1NN3R

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Tell her the nightcap at the bar you want to take her to is on you. That's if you feel the need to make it up to her, which evidently you do. I wouldn't feel the need to "make it up to her". If she bought you dinner, just take it for what it is, a kind gesture. Don't feel the immediate need to reciprocate.

Or just give her sex. :D
 

penkitten

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sometimes i get the check. it means i have the money to do it tonite, and another time i will not and you will have to get the check.
when i was single and i got the check, it meant i didnt want some guy to pay for my dinner and then get it in his head that i owed him anything. i didnt like feeling that way :)
 

ScrewIt

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Generally if a girl asks a guy out, she usually will pay for the date...however, when the check comes you should still at least offer to pay the tab. Even if she winds up covering it, you guys can go grab drinks/etc...and you can cover her.
 

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Sometimes they feel overwhelmed and want to feel independent in a way. It's usually not a bad sign. However, it's proven to be bad luck for me if a girl picks up the tab on our first date. It's just me anyways.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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DJDamage

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Why are you concern about small stuff like that?? you need to look at the bigger picture and that is how well was she receptive to your advances and whether or not you will see her again.

DjDamage
 

Phat

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If a girl is paying for dinner.. then she f'n likes u : - P
 

S1NN3R

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Phat said:
If a girl is paying for dinner.. then she f'n likes u : - P
Or she doesn't like you and doesn't want to give you the idea that she should be indebted to you.
 
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