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If someone approaches your target should you blow him out?

OC Speedball

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So yesterday I was going to approach this girl, but when I came around the corner I saw that some other guy had gone and sat down and started talking to her. He was sitting at the opposite end of the bench, no kino (he was probably an AFC), so as I casually walked by like nothing happened I thought about just straight up going in and sitting next to her...and blowing the guy out of the set. After all, the girl had approached me earlier and shown IOIs, so he sort of stole my target.

But then I thought how much I hate it when guys ****kblock me, so I let the guy talk to her uninteruppted by me.

So my question is, what should I have done? What would a Master DJ do? Should I have gone up and made a move regardless?
 

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The three second rule was done. I had already been talking to her.

I felt like it would have been a **** move to come up and blow him out, because we all hate being ****blocked. Basically, I gave the guy a chance with her (and he probably failed).

The question is, should I have blown the other guy out or not?
 

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OC Speedball said:
The question is, should I have blown the other guy out or not?
I have no doubt Mystery would have approached her and sat there anyway.

But I think this is entirely up to you. If you were a hard core, get the lay at all costs guy, you would have blown him out. But you wanted to give the guy his shot and not be a d!ck about it, and that's okay too. As long as you're not letting other people walk over you.

I imagine the "official" PUA answer would be blow him out though.
 
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