"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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If She's Not Tellin You Somethin...

slickaz

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....So ive been seeing 4 plates over the past month.

one got dropped and i added another (Refer to my latest posts about "lights off" and "punchy fragrances")

One of the top 2 plates has gotten very close to me.

we F alot, but also have become close as in we are there for each other.
She wants to define it, but i have been putting it off.

she says stuff like "I tell you EVERY think about me, why cant you trust me and define this relationship"
When I decline to agree, she gets slightly pissed but still maintains her calm.

No effect on the s3x life. its still great.

Anyway, i have a friend who works for a talent agency.

2 days ago, we went out on a date and she told me about her day.
She usually tells me evrything and i kind of enjoy it. we share good dates.

what she didnt tell me is that she applied to for an actor's role to a talent agency.
The person she processing her application is the friend of mine (They know each other, but she didnt know he worked at the agency that she dropped her CV off at)

She did not tell me about this move she made, which is cool by me.

but I wanted to know how much i can trust this chic.

so i asked her, is that everything then? didnt miss out any little detail?

she says "You know i tell you every little bit of my day, i trust you and i value your trust, so i tell you everything....why?"

I brushed it off like hhhee it was a joke.

but this has got me thinkin.

Yes she is a plate, but the fact that she said, i can trust her fully and completely. and that she tells me EVERY little thing.

but has forgotten to mention that she is looking at a career change into acting etc. (She is in administration).


what would you guys do?

I feel uneasy trusting her now, and i am also VERY glad i did NOT give into her initial push for a definition immediately. She is not a oneitis or anything, i am very happy to drop her off my list if needed.

what im sad about is that, it took her SO long to get into my good books, and now with a small thing she could be dropped off of it.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Scars

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I think you are over thinking this completely. She's just a plate that you fvck, you even said it yourself. Who cares if she made a career change and didn't tell you. Maybe she has a reason, or maybe she is just a secretly a lying slvt that fvcks all the time behind your back and lies about everything. If it bothers you than talk to her about it, but be prepared to watch your "relationship" going spieling downwards. But if she's really just a "fvck" then who even cares about honesty in the end? If it's bothering you that much than just drop her ass, because the looks of it now you are setting yourself up for a horrible case of oneitis.
 

King Turi

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She might not want to be embarrassed if you knew she applied for an actors role and failed or something.
 
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