If she thinks you're an AFC, but hasn't met you, try to DJ her?

[squirrels]

I work out at a local gym almost every day. When I'm there, I see attractive women all the time.

Usually when I'm in the gym, I'm either focused on my workout or thinking to myself, but occasionally I check out the women (I AM a man, after all ). The thing is that I've always been AFC when checking them out. I'd look up, but when they look in my direction, I'd look away. I'd look the other way when I/they walked by, I've been rather quiet if they ask to work in on a machine with me or whatever...mainly out of respect for THEIR workout, but also because I'm afraid of being thought of as a "creep" by these girls and then having to see them every day.

Of course, there's a new girl there every now and then, but most of the time it's the same old chix, so I end up getting caught in this AFC cycle. The thing is, I'm pretty sure these women get the impression that I'm AFC from my past actions (looking away, stealing glances, being quiet, pretending not to be interested, etc).

Would it be worth my time to try and DJ any of these women (actually approach and talk to them between exercises, etc)? Or should I just let it slide?

 

[Starman]

You are your own worst critic..Surely women form impressions on men based on their body language and WHATEVER else they have to go on..

but their impression isnt formed by much (i.e. stolen glances, shy gaze)

Now, if you could CONFIDENTLY go up and say hi and exude sexuality, confidence, drive etc..

all her former impressions are tossed out the door

and remember .. in Cognitive Psychology..they call this "Mind Reading"

assuming you KNOW what people are thinking..its a big error in cognition and not based on reality

So are you mind reading she thinks you are "AFC"?

Or do you have CONCRETE FACT she thinks you are?

 

[SamePendo]

Ive read your posts for a long while now.
We as... gentlemen, are genuinely respectful with women (like in this case, her workout).

What works is not giving a f*ck (since you are not commiting a crime, just acting like a testosteronized man), and go for it. Even if it may seem rude.

 

[squirrels]

Starman, true...these women don't KNOW me, but I believe they can tell...just like you can tell when a woman is nervous in front of you by body language, failure to hold eye-contact, etc...

SamePendo, I understand what you're saying, but I'm talking about women who I've already appeared AFC in front of (as mentioned above)...is it worth it approaching at this point? I mean, it's not like I'm making any serious EC or anything. I've had that happen before, but in most cases I've let it slip without saying anything and they eventually stop looking.

 

[SamePendo]

Yeah, Ive done it before.
It helps create some kind of mistery I suppose. Ask all the afc-to-dj`s here. They (we) dj-d the exact same girl with amazing results. Go for it.

 

[On-top]

Yeah, it is definitely worth it. I would work in an appropriate time, to make a brief, first verbal impression. Do it with confidence, and with a valid purpose. Try to obtain a little information from about her, and her interests. Then work in a piece of kino or a wink with a smile, and be gone.

Be sure you are the one to close the conversation, before she has a chance to. Make the appearance, so that instead of appearing AFCish and shy, you're respectful and to the point. I wouldn't worry about a # close if you don't want, since you'll probably see them again...and hopefully next time you'll have some more information to strike up conversation with.