"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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If she doesn't return eye contract could she be nervous?

tsmith2334

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For the record, my eye contact game is nice. I'm pretty confident when it comes to looking people in the eye and it's almost always reciprocal.

Here's my question though, if your talking to a girl at a party or a bar and the eye contact is in minimal, could they just be nervous?

I know from personal experience (especially in my younger days) that occasionally if I'm with an HB or someone I have feelings for my eye contact might be weak due to nervousness. Could this be the same for the opposite sex?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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DJDamage

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Pook said something that now I am begining to understand better. He said that the hotter the girl, the less likely she will give signs of indication of interest (which includes eye contact).

That does not mean she isn't interested but since she is so accustomed to guys giving her attention that she is desensitized to it and therefore you have to step your game up and act like a man and go for it even if you have no clue about the outcome.

Always assume she is interested and if you are interested then apporach her (sometimes you will fail but its better then not trying).
 

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I think that the whole eye contact thing is a bit of a red herring. In big cities, often people will not return eye contact merely since they are mentally preoccupied with other things, don't notice you from the crowd or because it's "not the done thing" (i.e. on the Tube/Underground for instance)
 

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DJDamage said:
Pook said something that now I am begining to understand better. He said that the hotter the girl, the less likely she will give signs of indication of interest (which includes eye contact).

That does not mean she isn't interested but since she is so accustomed to guys giving her attention that she is desensitized to it and therefore you have to step your game up and act like a man and go for it even if you have no clue about the outcome.

Always assume she is interested and if you are interested then apporach her (sometimes you will fail but its better then not trying).
Point well taken, I could see that being the case for very attractive women.

What if she's reasonably attractive (equal to you on the scale or slightly less) and you approach her with a ton of confidence? Personally I could see someone freezing and lacking eye contact. I mean, are women really as confident as we percieve them to be?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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