"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
if she calls me retarted or a nerd
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Teflon_Mcgee
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WesCottII
Master Don Juan
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Bible_Belt
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Carbine
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
comic_relief
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phatboi408
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Think about your close friends...Do they make fun of you? Yes, because they care....So when ever she makes fun of you agree with her, but agree with confidence...
Her: "youre retarded"
you: (with confidence and smiling while saying this)
"Yeah I know right? I dont think its a good idea for you to hang out with me...you might catch it....
Just think of something and dont get mad...
My friends make fun of me, tease me all the time and I do the same to them because I care about them..... By agreeing you are now in control and you can make it go in any direction....
Plus this can lead into bantering....role playing etc...
Later on when she does something funny or something stupid say "I thought I was retarded" (While smiling and sarcastic tone)
And when you do something stupid funny you can even make fun of yourself.... BUt do it with confidence!
thanks phatboi good answer i lke it and will use it have good day comic_relief
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I could just imagine the role playing of the retard.phatboi408 said:
"Fine, I get to be the retard this time. But your the retard next time."
Personally, I had a discussion about this very thing with my girlfriend about agreeing with a person if they are making fun of you. I said that you should take responsibility for it and then turn the joke around on them.
I always call my girlfriend "the brains of the operation." and she feels good about herself, but I always neg her about it. Like if she does something, "I can't believe that you are the brains of the operation. What does that make me the retard or something."
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phatboi408
Senior Don Juan
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Teflon_Mcgee
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It's all in love.
Though one time when I was younger, a girl I was dating said I looked like I had down syndrome and it really hurt my feelings.
But sometimes depending on my haircut my eyes do look too close together and I think I kind of do.
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How would you react if she called you a giraffe?intel123 said:
Are you one? No. It's a ridiculous sentiment, so treat it as such. You wouldn't feel the need to prove that you were, in fact, not a giraffe. So don't worry about proving that you're not a retarded nerd.
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