then self improvement is only for women isn’t it?
Wrong.
Who thought you this nonsensical idea?
From the moment a man is born into this world, he is always improving, 1st he learned to utter gibberish, then he learn to crawl, then he learned to walk, then run and he is always busy "building" something, perhaps a sand castle or maybe some imaginary weapon to kill Godzilla but he's always up to some ingenious idea that appears to have been spun out of thin air.
And girls then were the farthest thing on his mind, more of a nuisance, a hindrance to what he wants to do - the creation of dreams into reality.
But the girls were always chasing the boys to 'play' with, did you forget that bit?
Then puberty kicks in, suddenly our d1cks has the ability to move by itself...
And we were driven to fvck women by biology.
Of course the more effeminate of men will think they are doing everything for women to prove their egoless love.