i had a date with a girl last week who i number closed 5 months ago but she never responded to me to meet up for a date. i dont know if she had a bf at the time or whatever but she contacted me out of the blue about a month ago.. i came across too keen rather than making her work harder so we didn't meet up.
i contacted her last week as a last strike and if she didn't respond i'd just forget her, she did and agreed to meet up that night. i already knew the IL level was so low that i'd need to raise it firstly esp not seeing someone for 6 months.
she didn't even bother to dress up, she came in sweatpants and said she had to get back early so couldn't be out too late.
i knew to expect something like this so i wasn't surprised but it was more a test whether i could raise her IL. We get on great but i'm still not skilled enough to get her completely all over me and when i left the night and said goodbye and tried to kiss her cheek she was a bit apprehensive.
i contacted her today to meet up for a date tonight, i knew in my mind if she didn't give me a yes or a solid counter offer this would be the end of it cos she'll just want my attention which i no longer will give her.
i didn't even bother with hello how are u in the text, just straight get dressed up for me and i'll be taking u to x place, lets say 9pm?
she sarcastically it seems responded back in text: 'hey how r u? im fine thanx lol. i cant make it tonight cos im out of town till late.'
to me this is definite 100% NEXT.
i already deleted her number 5 months ago so it looks like time again. i'm not going to respond to that text, or should i?
it's down to her to come back to me.. knowing what shes like she may contact me with a stupid 'hello how are u?' text in couple weeks to see if she still has me.
i think it's pretty clear that she's not interested so nor am i unless she makes effort to make arrangements with me.
should i make this clear in a response saying it's up to her now? im thinking it's better to just say nothing and end it.
i contacted her last week as a last strike and if she didn't respond i'd just forget her, she did and agreed to meet up that night. i already knew the IL level was so low that i'd need to raise it firstly esp not seeing someone for 6 months.
she didn't even bother to dress up, she came in sweatpants and said she had to get back early so couldn't be out too late.
i knew to expect something like this so i wasn't surprised but it was more a test whether i could raise her IL. We get on great but i'm still not skilled enough to get her completely all over me and when i left the night and said goodbye and tried to kiss her cheek she was a bit apprehensive.
i contacted her today to meet up for a date tonight, i knew in my mind if she didn't give me a yes or a solid counter offer this would be the end of it cos she'll just want my attention which i no longer will give her.
i didn't even bother with hello how are u in the text, just straight get dressed up for me and i'll be taking u to x place, lets say 9pm?
she sarcastically it seems responded back in text: 'hey how r u? im fine thanx lol. i cant make it tonight cos im out of town till late.'
to me this is definite 100% NEXT.
i already deleted her number 5 months ago so it looks like time again. i'm not going to respond to that text, or should i?
it's down to her to come back to me.. knowing what shes like she may contact me with a stupid 'hello how are u?' text in couple weeks to see if she still has me.
i think it's pretty clear that she's not interested so nor am i unless she makes effort to make arrangements with me.
should i make this clear in a response saying it's up to her now? im thinking it's better to just say nothing and end it.