If most men in college don't get laid that much, why does media hype it up that way?

[Ambitious Player]

Reading Good Looking Loser's posts about college (you can check all 4 parts out on his site Goodlookingloser.com) has really opened my eyes. This one in particular:

http://www.goodlookingloser.com/entry/college/misconceptions-about-college-part-2

Now what gets me is that the media hypes college up to be this place where almost every guy gets laid. From my experience only athletes, frat boys, and guys who own their own house and throw parties really get laid. I would agree with Chris that it is indeed the 20 to 80 rule in most of the big colleges.

With that being said, if most men in college don't get laid, then why do media and society make it seem like they do?

 

[backbreaker]

seriously dude, have you ever stopped to consider that the reason that you don't get laid isn't because you are Indian but because you don't ever shut the **** up lol?

you are probably the worst date on earth lol. You have the conversational skills of Helen Keller on Acid.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

seriously dude, have you ever stopped to consider that the reason that you don't get laid isn't because you are Indian but because you don't ever shut the **** up lol?

you are probably the worst date on earth lol. You have the conversational skills of Helen Keller on Acid.

that's implying that he is getting dates every week

I also had a popular white athlete bound for the nfl in the class. He would hit on every sorority girl, but they would all reject them for their frat daddies.

 

[CaptainSaveAh0]

Lol .....
Who the hell has the time to make a pyramid to show how much they dont get laid. Thats just hilarious to me. Put that time and effort into approaching women and maybe you will get laid. If you cant get laid in college for some unknown reason go out to the city during the weekend and go approach women. Dont make a pyramid crying how much u cant get laid.

Make some changes for the better , start working out , start changing the way you dress , read some books , talk to some women . If you dont put yourself out there and dont value yourself you will never get laid.

 

[Mike32ct]

Because sex sells. Every movie or tv show about the college scene has to have lots of partying and getting laid.

Nobody is going to watch a movie or TV show about students studying all the time.

I agree about the 80/20 thing. Plus certain large schools are "party schools" and many smaller colleges are not.

It's the same thing with Spring Break. They hype it up, but probably no more than 20 percent of the guys score.

 

[Jaylan]

Stop these threads.

I got laid in college when I actually tried and when I actually knew how to play my cards. I would have got laid more if I wasnt immature at the time, or if I didnt willingly let a few opportunities pass me.

And guess what? Im black, average height, cute but not amazingly good looking, and back in college I had slimmer musculature than I do now. Every college is different dude. And the jocks and frat guys were far from the top picks at my school. But I went to a smaller D-3 state school, where sports and frat culture wasnt the big draw at the school. The big draw was the laid back town and its proximity to the the big city.

And colleges down in NYC all have a different culture depending on where you go. I saw different kinds of dudes doing well with women at my college and others, that smacks in the face of the bullcrap the media feeds you. Same thing in highschool. Many city highschool dont use hallway lockers, or have the whole jock vs nerds crap going on. Clicks vary by school though. When I was in school there were gamer/anime kids, skater kids, goth kids, punk kids, the hip hop heads, and then regular kids who were popular or not.

You really need to move out of the south....because a lot of the country dont treat their athletes or greek life folks the way they get treated down there. In NY regular guys can get laid at plenty of schools as long as they are cute and not socially awkward.

 

[skinnyguy]

Lol .....
Who the hell has the time to make a pyramid to show how much they dont get laid. Thats just hilarious to me. Put that time and effort into approaching women and maybe you will get laid. If you cant get laid in college for some unknown reason go out to the city during the weekend and go approach women. Dont make a pyramid crying how much u cant get laid.

Make some changes for the better , start working out , start changing the way you dress , read some books , talk to some women . If you dont put yourself out there and dont value yourself you will never get laid.

There is some truth to the social hierarchy though.

If you're at the top, you'll get laid at least 100 times more than guys at the bottom. Most of the time, you won't even have to try because the women will be pursuing you for sex.

The guys at the bottom have to put in an incredible amount of energy and effort just for one lay.

 

[Turuwal]

With that being said, if most men in college don't get laid, then why do media and society make it seem like they do?

My cynical answer? A mismatch between the expected and actual results creates disappointment and unhappiness, and drives sales of products, toys and gimmicks advertised to win a woman's affection. Advertising revenues are how media makes its money.

As for society, guys who have sex and actually think it's a big deal a.k.a. "alphas" use it to brag. The counter to this is give a pleasant smile and agree with how cool it is. Easy money.

Or if you really must get involved in the p!ssing contest, here are some lines to use until you come up with your own. The tonality is key here.

"I'm still a virgin" (DON'T use this if you actually are one)

"That's an interesting way to brag"

"I'm trying to cut down on sex"

"I'm still not sure if I'm gay or not"

 

[JdelaSilviera]

There are some guys who are having lots of sex.... others aren't big deal.

Stop being obsessed with sex, you will have plenty of it till you die.. there are a lot more important things in the world, stop thinking like a horny dog..

 

[sambwoy]

I admit to being sucked into these films, until reality hits you over the head, and in my late teens/early twenties it hurt when the girls who look even remotely close to the girls in these movies, with whom you may have to sometimes converge with in life (e.g. job assignment, public places, public transport), are not nice people, because they only see life through superficiality, and hang with the a*holes who got to where they are by being underhand.

They can't relate to how you are feeling, and when they claim they do, they come off as condescending, which shows they know nothing about it at all, and that's possibly the final insult.

You won't see them in Burger King, for one thing. They wouldn't touch those places with a barge pole. It sucks feeling like an average guy who is made to feel like the young male equivalent of a doddery elderly person, invisible to everyone else, socially awkward, mocked and humiliated by everyone just for existing, and thus has no positive outlook on life, and any guy who studies the LMS (looks, money, status) theory will realize why, and why they don't have even so many female friends, let alone those sexually interested in them.

 

[DonGorgon]

the reality is that in most social setting10% of the men are Fing 90% of the women and 90% of men are struggling that just they way it goes... you have to figure out what you need too do or have too be in the 10% of men ... in college looks money an drugs and popularity will usually get you easy sex..

 

[Mr Wright]

the reality is that in most social setting10% of the men are Fing 90% of the women and 90% of men are struggling that just they way it goes... you have to figure out what you need too do or have too be in the 10% of men ... in college looks money an drugs and popularity will usually get you easy sex..

Where are you getting these figures from?

 

[Dgwizdal]

Join a frat - duh.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

There are some guys who are having lots of sex.... others aren't big deal.

Stop being obsessed with sex, you will have plenty of it till you die.. there are a lot more important things in the world, stop thinking like a horny dog..

Yup, basically men need to make other areas, things in their life far more important than meeting women or getting women, areas, things that are boring