If its offered on a plate...do you take it?

[seethehoop]

Ok so some weird sh!t happened on Sat night, checked my facebook and got a message off an ex, this is a different one to the one I have posted about prev. This one is from 10+ years back. Anyways, she had seen my status change to single on facebook and got in contact asking me to text her sometime.

So I did, I text her Saturday evening and got like 3 text back but I was out and was having a good time so didn’t respond (seemed a bit desperate on her part, red flag tbh).

On Sunday aft I text her back and decided it seemed pretty obvious from the act of breaking nc that she wanted something from me so I thought I would escalate it quickly, a few text later and she tells me she is gagging for it (her words).

Now most people would be like a tramp on chips but here’s the dilemma, she has put on a bit of timber but she was a great lay. Her LTR is on the rocks but it aint exactly over (could be messy), I am in no delusions as to what this is, she has come to me cos she thinks she can get some instant physical validation due to her LTR being on the rocks. She wants what her partner aint giving her.

I feel like I’m supposed to be moving forward not back. I feel like I have higher standards, I’m not desperate for the lay even though this is totally on a plate; this has kind of killed any tension though too, it’s just too easy! I’m concerned about how desperate she is coming off and whether or not this is taking a step back….or am I over thinking this.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Just hit it dude, stop being so weird.

 

[Alvafe]

here is pretty much you want or not, less talking more action, just decide or you just get laid or just stop calling simple

 

[JohnChops]

Just hit it dude, stop being so weird.

Yeah seriously who cares its just a woman. Your not moving backwards your just banging a girl who gives a sh1t. As long as you don't get re attached to her and start to get your old AFC bad habits back. Do it with your feelings put to the side

 

[European-DJ]

If you were happy while being with your ex, I wouldn't do it, If you honestly didn't care, then hit it off.

But be honest with yourself, or else you mind end up with this girl on your mind once again.

 

[seethehoop]

There's no real emotional attachment. If I've ever thought of her it was the way you'd think of an old friend. You'd sincerely hope they were happy and you'd have some nostalgic memories but no intention of going back.

I got a pic of her last night, dirty one of course and I'm not at all attracted to her, she has let her self go quite a bit and I'm now working hard to get in shape and better myself so I'm thinking I want a better standard of woman. I know its shallow but that's just how I feel. I've lead her on a bit but I think I'm gonna eject.

 

[Slickster]

This is one where you just go screw her brains out and get out in a hurry with absolutely no feelings of guilt! Not because you are attracted to her or you even like her. Just do it because she is there wanting it, she is a good lay and you are a man.

When you are older you will look back at these opportunities and wish you took every one of them.

 

[5string]

One time I was out of town on a business conference. I have this female attorney friend who is drop dead fvckin gorgeous! Smokin! I was married to my first wife at the time and in an unhappy marriage. It was offered up to me on a plate with NSA. I wanted to, but I didnt do it. Can't even tell you guys how attractive this woman was.

Funny. I was talking to my current wife last night who is now friends with her. She told me I should have pounded her, married her and that we would have made the greatest couple.

Hindsight? Yep. Did I do the right thing? You guys be the judge.

It's life.

 

[SgtSplacker]

I have turned down trim in the past and every time I always had this "what kind of lame fahg are you?" feeling that would never go away. Every time I was horny I would think "dam why didn't I maintain that connection?"

So then I made a promise to myself...

I would never allow myself to do anything that would cause me to loose sleep.

I'm a happier man now...

 

[foreverAFC]

just get some head and leave.