What's up?
I was thinking it might be good for guys who are coming to this site green / semi green / a little confused when it comes to having more success with women to have a high level - bullet point list of things I think will help you the most. Here is my list, if you have more add em in.
Things that are actually helpful and useful to learn:
I was thinking it might be good for guys who are coming to this site green / semi green / a little confused when it comes to having more success with women to have a high level - bullet point list of things I think will help you the most. Here is my list, if you have more add em in.
Things that are actually helpful and useful to learn:
- Strong Sense of Self / Identity
- Real Self Esteem for who you really already are
- The ability to express yourself and your thoughts without trying to make an impression / looking for an outcome
- Realizing your sexual desires are perfectly healthy (as long as you don't want to hurt anyone else)
- Learning to recognize when a girl is showing you interest
- Not making a big deal out of (& learning how to) connecting with someone. Intimacy prior to actual sex
- Being non-judgmental about people in general
- Being accepting
- Realizing that the girl can be acting the way she is because she actually likes you
- Showing & Not telling (interest / escalating etc.)
- Screening for things that are actually important to you / real discernment
- Good body language and eye contact
- Being ok with telling her what to do (before and during sex) / Dominance
- Keeping things light in early conversations / communications
- Being willing and able to say no / put your foot down
- Keeping in good shape & good grooming
- Speaking slowly, using your deep & clear voice to turn her on
- Making plans with her when meeting for the first time / Have good stuff to do ready to go at all times
- If texting - keep it light, keep it short and remember to warm her up a little before asking her out (if you don't do above)
- Calling is better then texting
- It's usually better to build the anticipation of sex with you a little while then to jump right into it (longer relationships, better sex, no buyers remorse)
- Find ways to be comfortable with your masculinity - don't read someone else's definition of a man. Make your own personal definition and live it. Be a man of high character and self belief and the women will flock to you
- Take action - approach the girl, just go for it don't try any little strategies to make her feel or think certain things, just go up say Hi, or find some reason you wanted to talk to her and just continue talking (it can be about ANYTHING) and listen to what she says back. At some point try to make plans. You can tell her you want to see her because you find her very ___________ (something honest).
That's pretty much it! This ain't rocket surgery it's really all very simple, they want to go out with you as much as you want to go out with them (if you hit it off, if you don't that doesn't mean there is something wrong with you, it just means that the two of you didn't click, so meet someone else that you do click with...)
