"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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If I go she will probably think im weird, right?

aix237

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Long story short known this girl through mutual people. We were talking like once or twice a week for a couple of weeks. She was basically infatuated with me from how she was talking. She brought me back to her house one night and didn't bone cause i was too fvcked up. She probably thought I did not want to mess around with her but I actually did. She probably felt majorly rejected or something. After that she turned kind of weird. T

Talked to her a couple of times after, but didn't mention that night. I called her a couple of times and texted. About 2 weekeneds later i was texting her. She was replying and stuff. But i was pretty fvcked up and asked her to come to my cuz's wedding like 20 mins after her last text. But it was like at 1:30 am. She didnt reply.

Last weekened i did not attempt to contact her. This weekened i will also not attempt to contact her. But the following weekened there is a bday party for a girl that we both know she obviously knows her better than me. I found out through my cousin about the party. The only reason i wanna go is to see her obviously. I would know basically everyone at the party but i usually dont hang out with that crowd often. If i just go will she think im crazy or something? I was thinking maybe calling or texting playing stupid and saying "Hey friend. whats up with you, What are you doing tonight? You should come out with me tonight." Then shell probalby say im going to so and so's bday party. This is where she might say "do you wanna come or arent you coming?" Is my approach right cause i dont want to seem all stupid. shell know if i show up w/out talking to her that im there just for her.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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BrotherAP

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You're way too aware of what she's going to think about you, and it's hurting your game. What do you think about you? Is it weird if you go? Then don't go. If you don't think it's weird, then do go. Let her reach her own conclusion, and make sure to let yourself reach yours. Your plan to text her to get her to invite you suggests that you believe you need her permission to come. Why is that?
 

Julian

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Try not being so ****ed up everytime u try and hang with her:rolleyes:
 
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