"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
If I could only read 3 books on dating/seduction/game which ones should they be?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
REVELATIONS-mystery and company part two and was free download
THE RULES OF THE GAME-great homework type assignments
I can say that it was the first book I ever read, and no book has even came close to helping me as much as this book. Lots of good information! It has it all! It's too awsome, you must read it!
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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Iguana said:
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Master Don Juan
I'd go with
RSD Foundations - best approach model out there for beginners, every possible contigency is addressed, plus a ton of inner game stuff too
Body Language project (only non-verbal comm book I've read that covers approach subcommunication and what type of body language = creepiness. most BL books just focus on IOI's, which is not enough)
between those two, that's enough to get started with
Interceptor
Master Don Juan
On Being a Man and Deep Inner Game by David Deangelo
Way of the Superior Man by David Deida.
Apply focus, intention, growth, development, and learning to your Character development first.
Who you are as a Man is much more important than what kind of 'tactic' you are 'performing' in a 'set' or on a 'target'.
If you're a piece of sh*t as a Man, then at the end of the day it doesn't matter WHAT you 'say' or what kind of 'routine' you are performing.
Understand how women communicate TO you, and WITH you. Observe them and learn the language of women.
Skill with women is essential to Masculinity.
But this skill must be developed through maturity and proper perspective.
And learn to have fun with women, and truly enjoy their company. Doing that is extremely helpful in your development as a masculine man. Learn how to enjoy being with a woman, rather than looking at her as a 'target' and a 'goal'.
Your objective is to be in the company of good women, and to be good at acquiring the company of good women.
And to be ok if you're not.
That is all.
If you hate who you are, then nothing you do will cover up what you HATE. If you cant stand to be with yourself, then you should be working on that, not a routine or the 'right thing to say' or 'the cube' , "October man" or whatever.
Learn how to be alone with yourself. Dont use this sh*t as a distraction from who you are, and the things you dont like about yourself.
The more you ignore it and push it down the stronger it becomes....
Work on your core beliefs and any behaviors that hold you back first. Make sure you are assessing and clearing out any self limiting , self sabotaging, self defeating behaviors first.
I've come to believe that all that other stuff is putting the carriage before the horse.
What most men need is a deep, "identity level change" (as they call it in RSD), not 'band aids'.
Dont go looking for Band Aids when you have a gaping head wound....
Understand?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Daddy The Pimp
Master Don Juan
THE GAME - Introduces you completely the world of pickup artists and you can learn some lessons .
VENUSIAN ART HANDBOOK - How to attract and seduce women . M3 model . Very important to be PUA in my opinion .
BLUEPRINT DECODED - To get correct mindset .