if gf talks about ex bf... ?

[tony-montana]

okay lets keep in mind that i met this girl a year ago online and we shared similar interests. we exchanged numbers and started talking on the phone. next month she is coming to visit me. she lives in singapore, overseas.

anyway, to the point...

my gf just said: hey baby can i share something with you?

so i said sure and she told me how her ex bf emailed her friend to talk to her about something. WOOPDEE DOO? why did i need to know that.

then shes like: im glad she told me i realise what kinda guy i was with.

i asked her if she was over him. she said this:

yes i am. im sharing it with you cause i want you to know whats going on in my life. cause i love you. are you pissed off ?

i replied; no i'm just making sure before you jump into something else

and that was it.

but i still assume she loves me very much. talking about your ex bf doesn't mean anything does it? i have asked her to forget about the idiot. its in the past and that im here now. not him. any opinions?

 

[decades]

it depends if she makes a pattern out of it. If she does, or if she talks about other guys who hit on her, etc., she is bad news and dumpable. this is often called triangulation (you her the X) and it is a way to create drama and control and boost her ego by making you jealous. it can be one of the worst things to deal with if your GF does this a lot.

did you say you haven't even met this girl face to face yet or did I miss something? And it's already been a year and she is in love and you are in love? what's the deal here?

 

[tony-montana]

yeah no doubt, no doubt. i'll be sure to dump her if it keeps happening.

 

[speed dawg]

Your gf: "Hey baby can i share something with you?..."

Tony-montana: "Sure..."

Your gf: "My ex bf emailed my friend to talk to her about something..."

Tony-montana: "Awesome. I bought a monkey..."

Your gf: "Are you pissed off?..."

Tony-montana: "Only in the morning."


Conversation over. Sh1t test passed.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Would you rather have...

A. Your girlfriend tell you about her ex contacting her?

Or...

B. She talks to her ex behind your back and you dont know?

 

[DonGorgon]

if gf talks about ex bf... ? - there is nothing you can do... you cant control her thoughts of other men.... you need to be having more thoughts about other women.

 

[X-ecution]

Atleast she told you.

what's the big deal? my gf talks about her ex's all the time. don't get all hot and bothered about it

if she tells you how much better you are then them, then you're in the gold

 

[wjh]

if gf talks about ex bf... ? - there is nothing you can do... you cant control her thoughts of other men.... you need to be having more thoughts about other women.

Correcto Mundo.

 

[DonJuan11]

my gf just said: hey baby can i share something with you?

so i said sure and she told me how her ex bf emailed her friend to talk to her about something. WOOPDEE DOO? why did i need to know that.

Why would she email her friend? Why not just email her? Hmmm...

then shes like: im glad she told me i realise what kinda guy i was with.

What the heck? An email to her friend made her realize what type of guy he was? What if it was a phone call to her friend? Would that make her realize it even more?

i asked her if she was over him. she said this:

Asking shows insecurity. "Is it over with him?" = "I need to make sure you pay 100% attention to me because I need to constantly seek approval from you and other women for my ego"

yes i am. im sharing it with you cause i want you to know whats going on in my life. cause i love you. are you pissed off ?

Wow, dude. I'm almost speechless. Purposely asking the guy you let inside you if something pisses him off doesn't sound like love to me.

i replied; no i'm just making sure before you jump into something else

and that was it.

but i still assume she loves me very much. talking about your ex bf doesn't mean anything does it? i have asked her to forget about the idiot. its in the past and that im here now. not him. any opinions?

I just wonder why she should intentionally tell you something that she knew wouldn't help your relationship.

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Dr. Dre: You can't make a ho a housewife.

 

[Brandonc662]

it depends if she makes a pattern out of it. If she does, or if she talks about other guys who hit on her, etc., she is bad news and dumpable. this is often called triangulation (you her the X) and it is a way to create drama and control and boost her ego by making you jealous. it can be one of the worst things to deal with if your GF does this a lot.

did you say you haven't even met this girl face to face yet or did I miss something? And it's already been a year and she is in love and you are in love? what's the deal here?

This is very true, this is the best advice for this question

 

[tony-montana]

yeah we haven't met face to face. she said she's coming to visit me next month and sounds pretty excited about it. always talking about how she can't wait. she says she loves me all the time though. not atm though

 

[logicallefty]

Just last night the chick I am seeing decided to tell me about all these ex BFs who have been contacting her wanting her back.

She mentioned one and told me "Kevin (ex) is mad at me because I told him flat out I didn't want to see him because I am seeing you. He keeps calling me all the time". I responded "Well he needs to lighten up cuz my friend with benefits that I go to for sex on the side isn't upset about me seeing you at all". DOAH! The convo quickly changed from HER dudes to MY chicks. She got jealous as all getout and wanted to know if I was still *seeing* my friend with bennefits. Of course, she got no clear cut answer

 

[TheBaconator]

Why were my posts removed? Because I called this guy out on the delusinal AFC he is?

 

[decades]

yeah we haven't met face to face. she said she's coming to visit me next month and sounds pretty excited about it. always talking about how she can't wait. she says she loves me all the time though. not atm though

do not get oneitis okay? :trouble:

 

[chance]

i won't

 

[schttrj]

LOL.

i think you just made her go to her ex once again!

why the hell did you tell her not to have any contact with the IDIOT? gosh! how can you know she loves you. you didn't meet, did you? man, I am not asking you to fvck her but at least touch her seductively and see how she reacts. If she wants you as her lover, then she will let you go further or tell you to give her some time.

You should just have shown your playful non-clingy side to this. She was just checking how you react to that?

 

[chance]

umm... we'll see what happens when we meet pal.