If BOYFRIEND is not a sh!t test, then how get around it?

[2cirius]

Ok, so we've determined that "I have a boyfriend" means she's not all that into you. It's not a sh!t test, she really couldn't care less if you pursue her or not at best and at worst she wants you to go away.

SO HERE'S THE MILLION DOLLAR QUESTION: Since most HBs already HAVE boyfriends, what do you do about this situation? And we're talking about girls you meet at the mall or whatever, girls you may never see again. What do you do?

The true and blue DJ will say: "If you're getting the I have a boyfriend response, you're not coming across as MAN or HOT enough for her to have temporary memory loss." In other words, if you were Mr. Hottie, her boyfriend would be the furthest thing from your mind. So how do you get to be Mr. Hottie?

 

[Cod3r]

It does not matter what she says...

If you're flirting and having a good time with sexual tension involved (if its friendly forget about it) and she outright says, "I have a boyfriend", in my experience its best to respect that and say something like, "its nice to be with someone you love" and just let it roll off your shoulders...

More than likely she'll keep in touch with you.

I've had more than enough times where I've heard that line and i say something cute as a reply like "I like that you're upfront about those things" and just switch topic, if she's feeling you her circumstance dosen't matter...

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Now undoubtedly the trolls here will take this advice wrong. Because 9/10 most of you are hearing "I have a boyfriend" after a failed PU attempt. I'm talking about when you open and she's giving off good vibes, you got your kino going and she's responding in like, she's laughing, you're laid back and then at the end you ask to go out and she gives you that line.... then just respect it

I dunno its just me not to push things... and it works for me...



-Cod3r

 

[2cirius]

But how can it be called a success, if you eventually end the conversation and each go your seperate ways without getting her number? Remember here we're talking about girls you will probably never see again.

 

[Cod3r]

^ ^ This is your inherent problem...

When you don't have expectations amazing things happen. Women are thinking the exact same thing partner. When you have a good interaction with a woman, you're not the only one excited, so is she...

When she gives you the 'I got a bf' and you are willing to 'accept' and end such a good interaction with everyhthing being congruent to this fact (BL, Eyes, Voice) she will begin to think, "wow wat a guy, I want to talk to him again"

You won't understand until you get more experience and I did a crappy job of explaining things, so i'll stop here, but trust me on this one. When you're willing to walk away, females do some odd things... *cod3r remembers* lol


-Cod3r

 

[Teflon_Mcgee]

Exactly what Cod3r said.

Also, don't expect miracles if you're doing a fast CA and don't have time to vibe.

 

[2cirius]

we must be living in different realities then dude because every time I "walk away" from this situation, they give me this look like "sorry I just hurt your feelings....but you know how it is...."

 

[Cod3r]

It's too hard to explain over the internet bro, i'm sorry...

Only thing I can say is your missing the 'IT' factor and that only comes with much experience in the game, one day all of this will hit you on the forehead like a sock full of nickels. Until that day, just keep plugging away, you'll see the light soon. Me trying to explain things to you are only going to confuse you more because your mind isn't in a place to accept what I see as reality...

Yes we're most definitely in different realities


-Cod3r

 

[flexion_]

Stop looking at the end result. Obviously women switch BFs. Why do you think they switch? Easy answer ... they find something better.

If thats you - then you know the result. So again this goes back to being the best person you can be irregardless of her and then things usually just fall into place.

 

[Snow Plowman]

Keep pumping Buying temperature, and if you want use a boyfriend destroyer to make your chances even greater.


The reason I know you could get passed this is because I have a girl friend who I never could tell who she was messing with, because I heard her in just one week talking about one BF, then next minute she was suppose to be talking to my friend, but in 2 days she ends up with a totally different person that no one expected.

 

[Raikojo17]

man, jus move on. why try an game a chick how has a bf or is jus not feelin u? it's not worth it, there r tons more girls out there to game without bf's.

 

[2cirius]

man, jus move on. why try an game a chick how has a bf or is jus not feelin u? it's not worth it, there r tons more girls out there to game without bf's.

tons more girls or girls who weigh a ton? I personally have NEVER met a pretty girl who didn't have a boyfriend.

 

[Cod3r]

^ ^ You need to get out more...

Or maybe they just lie to me, i dunno... but most I've met were single


-Cod3r

 

[Raikojo17]

tons more girls or girls who weigh a ton? I personally have NEVER met a pretty girl who didn't have a boyfriend.

actually, most girls r single. i've met a lot of pretty girls without bf's. most guys jus asume that because they're pretty that they have bf's, but that's not the case. lol and tons of girls who together out weigh a ton easily. i would hope there is no girl that ways a ton.

 

[Teflon_Mcgee]

actually, most girls r single. i've met a lot of pretty girls without bf's. most guys jus asume that because they're pretty that they have bf's, but that's not the case. lol and tons of girls who together out weigh a ton easily. i would hope there is no girl that ways a ton.

In my experience this is truth. even if it's not, it's still the frame to always take.

 

[2cirius]

In my experience this is truth. even if it's not, it's still the frame to always take.

It's not my truth. Women always tell me they have a boyfriend. I get women come up to me that I haven't even seen before to tell me about their boyfriends. Women GO OUT OF THEIR WAY to tell me about their boyfriends. I get emails from strangers saying: "I have a boyfriend." I get letters in the mail with the sentence "I have a boyfriend." I get telegrams from women in Europe reading: "I have a boyfriend." A couple of guys even came up to me and said: "I have a boyfriend."

 

[Teflon_Mcgee]

It's not my truth. Women always tell me they have a boyfriend. I get women come up to me that I haven't even seen before to tell me about their boyfriends. Women GO OUT OF THEIR WAY to tell me about their boyfriends. I get emails from strangers saying: "I have a boyfriend." I get letters in the mail with the sentence "I have a boyfriend." I get telegrams from women in Europe reading: "I have a boyfriend." A couple of guys even came up to me and said: "I have a boyfriend."

LOL!!!!

I know how you feel. I went through this too.

My advice is to start working on friendships with women. Normaly I don't condone having women as friends but if you build up your female friend network you will begin to see a pattern of females and their relationships.

Once you see this you can begin to internalize it and adopt the proper frame for success.

 

[danielzxc]

Using PU terminology, "I have a boyfriend" is more ASD (antislut defence) than a "shyt test" (whatever the fvck that is).

It's so she can justify to herself why she cheated on her boyfriend. "Well, I TOLD him I had a boyfriend...but he charmed the pants off me anyway..." Stupid, of course, but that's chick logic for ya.

2cirius -- are you Invisible Man? 'Cos you just made the same post under two identities.

I've been saying this all along but no one listens to me. Now, how do I get them to stop telling me about their boyfriends? I just look at a woman sometimes and she'll say "I have a boyfriend." Sometimes women come up to me that I didn't even know were there and they tell me "I have a boyfriend." I get emails from strangers saying "I have a boyfriend." I get letters in the mail with just the line: "I have a boyfriend." I've even had a couple GUYS come up out of the blue and say "I have a boyfriend."


- Invisible Man

 

[PRMoon]

It depends on the woman. I've slept with girls with boyfriends, girls with fiances, and girls who are married. If their attraction to you is significant enough, they'll be all over you. If they're really committed, why bother trying to crack that safe? I mean honestly, there are so many hot girls living on this planet, why pursue ones who are otherwise occupied and not interested? It's like a buffet, if one item is unavailable, you may be unhappy for a moment, but you'll find something that's equally good and it's not too far away.

 

[2cirius]

Using PU terminology, "I have a boyfriend" is more ASD (antislut defence) than a "shyt test" (whatever the fvck that is).

It's so she can justify to herself why she cheated on her boyfriend. "Well, I TOLD him I had a boyfriend...but he charmed the pants off me anyway..." Stupid, of course, but that's chick logic for ya.

2cirius -- are you Invisible Man? 'Cos you just made the same post under two identities.

LOL. No I'm not but I thought it was a good quote because no one had an answer to it and virtually the same damn thing happens to me all the time. Women are always telling me about their boyfriends. Even if I have no interest in them. Just yesterday I was talking to a coffee bar chick, and I casually said "got plans for the weekend?" She said "It's my anniversary." I said "But your not married" (I didn't see a ring). She said "I've been with the same guy for a year now." I got real disgusted and said "It's time to move on to someone else" grabbed my coffee and got the hell out.


~~~~~~2cirius~~~~~

 

[2cirius]

I mean honestly, there are so many hot girls living on this planet, why pursue ones who are otherwise occupied and not interested?

Those are the only ones I can find dude. Or else I'm such a loser they tell me about their boyfriends even though it isn't true. Regardless of the reason, it isn't a good thing.