If another male criticises you behind your back to another female...

[Poonani Maker]

and she believes it or "semi-believes" it. What do you do about it? I have suspicions of "so-called" friends doing this behind my back but I can't confirm it so, I guess, I just don't like when others make plans behind my back. There's this girl who wants to marry me but I've been giving her the cold shoulder because that's what I've studied here and in the slew of attraction ebooks out there and because, quite frankly, I don't want to marry her, YET. I still have at least two options to carry on or Bring to an end before I decide to get hitched. But because this one who wants to marry me is so smart/educated the works, is highly desirable by other males and is sexy from head to toe (just not blonde which bothers me at little if it were to be for life), I'M Starting to have feelings for her, because she's playing the game right at me. I'd say our game between us is at a point of NEUTRALITY. It used to be slanted well in my favor of who's attracted more, but now (at this date, today) we are pretty much even, AND I think that if she were to ask me to marry her, I Might actually do it (even with the two other unresolved). My point is, I'm starting to FEEL something for this one I didn't feel anything too much for before.

I know why she's attracted to me. It's because, I made a good first impression on her (AND her little sister), we see each other At least once a week, AND there is a high degree of social pressure for us to get together (almost like an arranged marriage) - both of our sets of friends both old and young think that we would be great together.

Am I behaving AFC? Am I starting to value her too much? Is it OK to have a woman win you over? She really is starting to be a breath of fresh air to me, but she had to work herself up to my standards in order to meet my expectations that I exuded by shunning her. I became a challenge and she changed for me. AND I'm beginning to love her. She's Very mature for her age.

 

[fbplayer06]

If you know the specifics of the insults, work to rid yourself of these faults. If not, then stop acting AFC and worrying about what people think. :nono:

 

[Obsidian]

But because this one who wants to marry me is so smart/educated the works, is highly desirable by other males and is sexy from head to toe (just not blonde which bothers me at little if it were to be for life)

:crackup:


In answer to your first question, supposedly you can squelch rumors by starting even worse (ie, unbelievable) rumors about yourself. I haven't actually tried it, tho.


And no, I don't really think it's AFC to fall in love with a girl and get married. Keep your head about you, tho, and make a wise decision. Don't just do it because other people are pressuring you or because you're temporarily aroused by her. And try to make sure she's a better catch than the other two women, or you might have regrets.